Couture with a side of stress

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I’m wondering if this is one of those moments when we should all admit that we feel like failed bloggers. A blogger I admire asked her Flickr contacts if she was a bad SL fashion blogger. One of the people who responded admitted that she doesn’t get as many hits as she would like. This takes as much courage as wondering publicly whether one’s styling and photos suck as much as some haters say they do. Why courage? Because it’s tough to override the command to “never let them see you sweat.” And because we imagine that creators want statistical evidence of success, as well as the ability to beat out others in contests, which are increasingly popular. It’s clear that despite the stress involved, most of us decide to keep blogging because the pleasure we take in doing it outweighs the insecurities. This pleasure doesn’t stop me from mentally quitting every day. Compared to the way I think about my job, which I mentally quit every hour—unless my leg is caught in a bear trap, in which case, I might wish I was in my office grading papers—my attitude towards blogging is very healthy.
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As a blogger, I rush out to meet the world: everyone on the planet will tune in and turn on when they see my work, everyone will know me, and everyone will like me! Dreams like that persist despite the evidence that they should die the first day of nursery school when some three-year-old witch arbitrarily battles with you at nap time for the best towel. Most of us are “niche” bloggers because being a person means being niche. Just as a high percentage of the billions of humans on the planet aren’t going to be my friend, so most of the multitude aren’t going to be my fan.

P.S. People, please stop liking my posts so that I visit your professional life-coaching site. I’m taken: a therapist got to me first.

Portia wears
new My Shades in amethyst from Riri Nini at h.m.a.e.m, who gets me
new Sorren necklace, which comes with cuffs (not shown), By Zib Scaggs of Zibska, who gets me
LeLutka hair (fades pack; two shades shown)
new (fd) coat at Collabor88
Je Suis ring (summer sale now on!)
new Milk Motion pants (former TDRF)
new Birdy skin (insanely affordable at The Chapter Four)
in the closeup, part of a dress from Illmatic (which I can’t recommend because the texture on the skirt won’t res, at least not for me)
poses by tea.s (the first one is available, the second an oldie)

I GIMP because I don’t want you to wince. This post was therapeutic.

Been saving it all for you

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The Gallery Gift Shop is celebrating its second anniversary. Every month TGGS mistressmind Shortcake Sugarplum curates a lovely collection of art, clothing, accessories, home furnishings and greenery. This month, in honour of the anniversary, Ms. Sugarplum has been awake nights doing what one does with big data. This data is not just numbers, so it must be munched, not crunched. Putting her waistline at risk, Ms. Sugarplum came up with a profile of the average TGGS customer. Apparently, she looks something like the girl you see in today’s pics. And yes, she is a virgin, in SL at least.

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Credits to creators
limo to The Gallery Gift Shop
thank you TGGS creators!
::WEG::: Belle de Jour Stripe M (NEW; at TGGS starting July 15)
Zibska, Phoebe ~ Earring and Necklace (colour change) (NEW group gift; ty Zib!)
[Angels and Demons Creations] looks flowers mesh glasses (NEW; at Gypset Market; ty Aliza!) [Join the free BeStyle Readers group when you arrive at the shop in order to buy the items.]
[Angels and Demons Creations] MTL hat (not available)
+Nuuna+ Kati Skin [Fair] cleavage
[UMEBOSHI] Lunar 2 eyes -Deep-(NEW; at TGGS starting July 15)
[ #7 ] D I S C O V E R Y Mustache Your Lips – red (at TGGS starting July 15)
Eaters Coma – GIFT 03 (S) / Dark Chestnut (group gift)
::je::suis, magnifique::bangles reds
:FANATIK: Tyrolia vintage bangle
GIMPed for your pleisure

Licking my chops

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I’ve been reading Angela Carter’s The Bloody Chamber, which is supposed to be a collection of feminist retellings of fairytales. Several of the stories turn on encounters between teenage girls and animals. In one, Beauty transforms the Beast into a man with her love. In another… Well, let’s just say that those transformations can work both ways. And poor sweet Beauty missed out on some very sexy sex. The stories inspired today’s outfit, which sees Portia looking satisfied after sharing a barbecued big bad wolf with grannie and the woodsman, who turned out to be gran’s boytoy. That’s right: gran’s the original cougar. If you don’t like to read books, you might see if you can rent The Company of Wolves, a fascinating film written by Carter and director Neil Jordan.


This week I had my eye on some cool but pricey new jumpsuits. I decided to stop denying myself and splurge on whatever I wanted. To my surprise, instead of heading for Diram or Celoe, my av returned to Fameshed to drool again over Fanatik’s beautifully textured leather dresses. It seems I have some catching up to do in the not-denying-myself department.

Credits to creators
:FANATIK: Leather & Lace dress Brown S (NEWISH at Fameshed)
-tb- C88 Lace Dress – Brown [worn underneath] (old Collabor88 item)
Remy, BeastHood(FurCast)-M-OldFur/Brown (NEW at Around the World in Africa)
::Exile:: Little Things:Dirty [damn I love this hair]
{.essences.} Maria skin *Soleil dark* Sugar (NEW at TDR)
*League* Folklore Leggings -Ziggy (pl)
Maitreya, Devi Booties Rosewood (another catch-up splurge)
::je suis…grande::browns::bangles
:: Purple Moon :: Noble Ring in Walnut
poses: The Muse Poses, Tyche pack; PDA
location: Wretched Hollow