Over the past year I’ve made several references to the inevitable, premature end of my career as a scholar. For years I was powerless to do anything about it because I was powerless to do anything, period. I’ve been given a reprieve by the uni, I’m back not just to writing but to writing fluently, and I feel strong. I was lucky enough to find a wonderful therapist: if I have someone in my corner I am more than able to fight the shit that’s keeping me down. But I’m certain that my recovery is due mostly to the antidepressants, which I should have started on years ago. Why didn’t I? Because lying on the couch unable to do my own work and spending less and less time doing anything for classes felt like a normal reaction to several awful life experiences and to the disappointment of being resented by students and discounted by many members of the college (though not by the people in my actual department). I also didn’t think I was actually depressed because the depression I’d experienced in my twenties came in the form of sadness, not inactivity. Crying every day was a sign that something was wrong. Given the way my life had been going over the past five years, it seemed entirely appropriate for me to be the human equivalent of the boulder that seals a tomb. I don’t think I ever truly believed the claim that when people are depressed they don’t know it or don’t know the extent of it. I believe it now. Does this sound like some dumb testimonial? I could say more, but I won’t. There’s one last thing that I need to write and hope to recall if things go badly again: when I am a valued member of a wonderful community, I do pretty fucking well. Being part of a wretched community that conspires actively to distribute quicksand-like suffering in a dreadful inversion of egalitarian principles? I go under. On the fashion front, things are looking up with the opening of Genre, a fantasy maven’s dream, where I picked up the most flattering skin Voshie Paine has ever done for La petite morte. There are three makeups in one lovely skin tone, with elf ears and Lolas Tango appliers included. Each is only 100L. (I die.) The dress Portia wears here is a 70L reopening goodie from Violent Seduction’s outpost on the Cupcake sim. Finally, [e] (elikatira) is having a 70% off hairdo sale. (It’s supposed to be a retirement sale, but everything seems to be discounted.) Don’t be flummoxed if a mouse-over shows the usual price of the hair packs. When you click to buy you get the discount price.
Credits to creators (see above for location deets)
.la petite morte. wixson pale fantasy 2
Violent Seduction – S/M Versailles (Cream)
Lolas ::: Tango ::: Mesh Breasts
[e] Thrive – Red 05 (on sale)
Eclectica ‘Nouveau Leaves’-necklace
lassitude & ennui, Phoebe lace-up boots dusty rose / light wood
pose prop one: Trompe L’oeil, Dreamy Genie Bottle Skybox Green (old Collabor88)
pose prop two: oh damn, I’ll check for you…
Some violence against women and girls is overt, immediate and terrifying. Unfortunately, much of it is covert and pernicious. For instance, I have a friend who once accepted a ride home from a man she found creepy because she didn’t want to offend him. And she didn’t want to take the subway alone at night. In the event, nothing happened. Not until I jumped up and down and flapped my arms and said “No. No. No. Say no. Sometimes you must say no.” Violence against women proliferates because we live in patriarchal cultures. Here in North America, my friend can’t say no because she is reminded a dozen times a day that pleasing men is the key to her welfare. It’s a very good idea to demand that governments around the world make and enforce laws that protect women and girls from violence. But we also need to raise awareness about the root of the problem, which is male domination of women. To put it in the worst possible terms: we don’t signify unless we are prey. If we recognize this, each one of us can combat the oppression that legitimates violence, and threats of violence, in all its forms. We don’t need to depend only on the government and the police for safety. We can also depend on each other. And we can harness the power of NO.
Credits to creators
boots: lassitude & ennui (from the L’Accessoires black friday event)
glasses: Swallow (open gift in store)
necklace: 7891 (resizable; from fi*friday)
fur: (fd) (at Collabor88; Portia wears only fake fur assembled by garment workers paid a living wage and subject to no sexual harassment)
I don’t know who that clown is, but I encountered him at Rotten Defiance.
This picture was GIMPed.
Thanks to the magic of time travel, I am able to offer you a sneak peek of the next release from Sopha Portal of My UglyDorothy. This is Joon, coming soon, a beauty with cat’s eyes, pert lips and lustrous skin. (I had to trade in 63 Beetlebones hamsters for a time-travel machine. Tomorrow I’m going back in time to kill the person who didn’t put enough As in the Commoner Marquee gacha.)
Today, October 7, is the last day to shop the 50% off sale at Molichino. I treated myself to the Issy Blouse, which comes in dotted and plain pink in one pack. Burley released some wonderful hairdos this week, and as usual I was drawn to the boys’ looks, which are resizable. This is Gosling, a perfect gamine cut.
Credits to creators
*MY UGLYDOROTHY -Yoon06(Salmon) (COMING SOON; ty Sopha Portal!)
Ingenue :: Lauren :: XS :: Merlot (NEW, 50 L Fri item)
MOLiCHiNO Issy Blouse – DOTS (S)
*GF* Print Tights -Rose Red- (NEW)
lassitude & ennui Phoebe lace-up boots dusty rose / light wood (pack includes dark wood option) (at L’Accessoires)
(Caroline’s Jewelry) Fleur de Lis Earrings (gothic/gold) (past Collabor88)
Chop Zuey, The Blood of Babylon Bracelets (old hunt gift)
pose one by Glitterati, pose two by dfo!
GIMPed but not pimped