Season’s Greetings

This is what happens when you shop indiscriminately. You mix up the genres so that your avi has a hentai outfit from CryBunBun without a bouncy big-butt-n-boobs body, Goth Lolita eyes from rotten with nary an apron in sight, stripper boots from Venus Shoes, hipster hair from Monso, eye sparkles from the aesthetic acrobats of Emotional Circus, and horns (do you remember when everyone wore horns?) from an old fave, Petrichor. You think I forgot the tail but Portia is actually using it to dial Santa on his private line.

I want all the points for matching the red of Portia’s outfit with the red of her boots. You can award me in gingerbread men.


CryBunBun – Cardinal’s Meretrix – Panties and Top- Red – Maitreya
Just Yaska // Bow Pasties [MAitreya]
:[Petrichor]:- Holiday Azre Horns [50L Friday]
[monso] My Hair – Carol Mix&Pop pack
LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)
EMOTIONAL CIRCUS – Magical Girl Sparkles
rotten . devilish eyes . anzai
E-girl, Black Star Lelutka eyeliner
[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E
Top1Salon, MUAH Pale 2 lipstick
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3
-Pretty Liars- Boobs lift LEVEL 7
Izzie’s – Breast Veins 1
Mewsery, Float pose (pic one)
Lyrium, Little Snowman Series poses with snow emitter

Nothing to eat

This settler’s blog comes to you from the traditional homelands of the Council of Three Fires: the Ojibwe, Odawa, and Bodéwadmiakiwen Nations. They are the signatories to Cession 78. Many other tribes, such as the Myaamia, Ho-Chunk, Menominee, Michigamea, Kiikaapoi, Kaskaskia, Peoria, Sauk, and Fox, also call this area home. There is unceded land in this territory. Chicago was extended with landfill along the shore of Lake Michigan. Most of this land did not exist when Cession 78 was proclaimed in 1835. Thus this land was never ceded.

To find out whose land you live on visit

outfit by R2 A/D/E

Ready to serve

I don’t have any fantasies of service submission. But Portia likes to keep her eye on the madeleines. I put this look together with discount items: I got the hair, lingerie, eyeshadow, eyelashes, and lip gloss via Fifty Linden Friday, Happy Weekend, and my favourite, SoKawaiiSundays.

I paid a pretty packet for these cuffs and collar, past gacha items by Mug, which I picked up on Marketplace. They are gorgeous creations of lace, leather, and chains. (I had to edit the cuff on Portia’s left wrist. Inworld there is no break in that chain.) This picture seems pretty tame. Until you notice the way Portia’s nipple is playing with the pointed cup of the Savannah bra.

Credits (all items are LeLutka Evo)

bonbon – nagisa hair – ombres (comes with a male fit and with a no-bangs version)

Ricielli – Savannah Lingerie Bra (M. Lara) [with collar not shown]

Ricielli – Savannah Lingerie Garter and Panties (M. Lara)

Mug – Lusty Lace – #11 Lace Handcuff Black (old gacha, try Marketplace)

Mug – Lusty Lace – #5 Lace Collar Black (old gacha, try Marketplace)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

.E l e i. – Nabi (Lipgloss) / LEL EVO-EVOX

keikumu – milano lashes

Core&Gore :: Osho eyeshadows [pink] Evo

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2 (gift)

rotten . devilish eyes . anzai

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

[LERONSO GIFT] Mesh stiletto nails “Shiny Shane” 

.DirtyStories. 69 Leg Tattoo (olde)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

poses: nyagore, Little Abigail

location: Ethereal City

I stayed up late…

…to make this for you.

Tentacio, Witch Planning
CURELESS[+] Alouqua Dress Special / MAITREYA
CURELESS[+] Alouqua Wings Bento
.E l e i. – Anya (Skin) / Tone 08 1
emotional circus, final spell (eyeshadow)
Heron, Hallow Makeup (lips)
Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2 (gift)
Nefekalum Tattoos – Spirit (Carved) // Tattoo (old gift)
pr!tty – Cho – :rigged: -Multicolor-
S&P Cuff and Collar Avery
[LERONSO GIFT] Mesh stiletto nails “Shiny Shane”
LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3
rotten . devilish eyes . anzai
Stun, Diana pose
location Ethereal City

Hang on spooky, spooky hang on

Breath play is not safe. That’s why I like this statement from Dan Savage’s column: “What most people who are into choking want is to feel controlled,” said Mistress Matisse. “So put your hand over [their] mouth. Grab [their] hair, wrap an arm around [their] shoulder—not [their] neck—and put your other hand over [their] mouth. That should satisfy the urge.”


{Rosier} / Strangle Spirit / Solid

Moon. Hair // Luna Size 01

[The Forge] Blake Garter, Black, Maitreya

Le Forme, Bento Nails Dk Blossom [MAITREYA]

THIS IS WRONG Bohemian tattoo BLACK FRESH – BoM (was a special event item so it’s not available)

rotten . devilish eyes . anzai

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Nantra, Syzygy 4 pose

Lost love

When I was 26 I fell in love with a married man who was twice my age. I had never met anyone with such PRESENCE. He was a feast and he had a huge appetite for me. Neither of us scraped by on salad with stale croutons.

It fell apart quickly but slowly. The days between me saying “I want to stop this” and actually stopping were numerous and long. We remained friends for a while after we stopped having sex. After I learned to go a month without him it was safe to have lunch. As time wore on, however, I needed to know whether he had truly been in love with me, so I asked him if we could talk about our relationship. He said “To talk about it would be to start it again.” I had no way of responding to that—the last thing I wanted was to dive in again. My enforced silence was the first stage in a resolution to stop seeing him. For good.

Twenty-four years after I made the decision to never contact him again a very small part of me wondered if I’d regret this. He’s my mother’s age, and she’s not well. What if he dies? I asked myself. Could I live with being too late? I’m going to have to live with it. He’s not dead but he is too ill to see me. We’re really never going to talk about it. And yet I don’t completely regret my decision to stay silent for a quarter of a century. All those years ago he checked out and left me holding the bag. I decided then to put the bag down. It’s down for eternity.


Violent Seduction – The Strawberry – Maitreya (Black) and (Red) (available this weekend only) (opaque version included)

CURELESS [+] LoveSick / Love Vaccines (25L gacha till August 31)

CURELESS [+] LoveSick / MAITREYA / Bowie Plats / BLACK (25L gacha till August 31)

CURELESS [+] LoveSick / MAITREYA / Stockings / RED (25L gacha till August 31)

Kibitz – Leather collar princess (discounted gacha till August 31)

VINYL – Jello Shots Panties – Maitreya

Doe: Ingrid – Kraken pack

THIS IS WRONG Inked tattoo HW – BoM

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

STUN poses, Juliana

MD, padded room not available (I’ve signed a long-term lease)

Gacha go gone gone

The news is grim for those of us who have loved gacha lo these ten+ years. Linden Labs have banned gachas as of August 31st on the grounds that they may constitute gambling and thus likely exploit psychological weaknesses in players. I have never gone too far when playing gacha. This is partly because I let the first couple of items determine where I’m going to take an outfit and then I buy the rest of it on Marketplace. (I’d say that my obsessive time-consuming gacha mania came when people set up places to sell their unwanted gachas. I cammed acres of Second Life as Area Search glitched. Marketplace saved me from this.) So say I’m playing Dami’s Agnes at The Crystal Heart Fair and I get a pair of red shoes on the first pull and a navy veil on the second and third. I don’t like the red shoes, so I decide to build an outfit around the veil. And look what an outfit I built! Items from fave gacha creators Cureless and Zenith, a very olde schoole camera, a rare flaming lei by E.V.E, and rare tats from Fallen Gods and The White Crow.

One of the other reasons I’ve never gone too far is because I have a habit of winning rare within four plays. Either rare isn’t that hard to come by or I am blessed. I had seen the tat by The White Crow, shown above, but couldn’t recall where. I got some help from a group and they pointed out it’s rare. I got it on the first pull and Portia has worn it consistently. Here she pairs it with a gacha ensemble by Luas. The rare tabi/okobo can be seen in my Hallowe’en complaint.

Two of my favorite gacha looks are kinky Odeur de Cuir and Vintage Romance from Enfant Terrible. You can still play these gachas. As of this writing they have not been discounted. Some creators’ gachas have been discounted. Some have been turned into fat packs at high prices like L5,000.

Cureless gachas have been discounted to 25L a pull. They are also available as fat packs. Here Portia wears a Cureless gacha bodysuit with lots of room for her heart. I have won many rare Cureless items over the years and I love the sexy horror they bring to Portia’s wardrobe. See one of the rare tats in When a Witch Shoots Playboy. (I didn’t blog this Easter look and I don’t recall who made the olde booming bunny ears, but the makeup is Izzie’s on Marketplace.)

Zenith’s skillfully created Medic Gacha was another inspiring product. All Zenith gachas are discounted to 25L.

Probably my favorite gacha item ever is the pygmy puffs, which are animated to stick out their tongues. They came in many desirable colours from Anya Ohmai’s Ohmai Emporium. Here Portia cuddles them in a skin by The Plastik, which is now Petrichor.

The one thing I hate is a gacha where the clothing is rare. In this case, Sweetie by Violent Seduction, I was able to gather all the accessories but not the dress. So Portia had a nude shoot. Sure, create special outfits that are rare but don’t make those the only things that keep your avi rated G. Here Portia sports a This is Wrong tattoo.

A big win for me was this fabulously bejewelled rare Gothic Queen avatar by Antielle and May’s Soul.

By far the biggest gacha craze I witnessed was the hammie frenzy when Beetlebones came out with deliciously colored small round hamster avis with the cutest butts you have ever seen. I wrote one of my best posts, Inside the Bubble, about the disparity in pricing and illogical designation of the most desirable of hammies. This was a long time ago, but I have this vague memory that the hammies could dance….

Credits for the first look

=Zenith=Shen le kimono (Cherry) -Maitreya (gacha) (discounted to 25L)

DAMI.AGNES LOOK #Veil-NAVY (gacha at Crystal Heart fair)

Fallen Gods Inc.+ THANATOS tattoo, Tintable RARE (all Fallen Gods gachas have been withdrawn already)

9 RARE -[TheWhiteCrow]- Blossom tattoo (I found no sign of this gacha instore)

CURELESS[+] Incubus&Succubus / Lilim Wings BENTO / RARE

CURELESS[+] Precious Gem / M / Crystal Leg / BLUE /

E.V.E Ink Flower Collar [Ethereal] Fire (play it for 50L)

Tee*fy, Vintage Grandpa’s Old Camera (Rare) (not available)

ionic, every day is a new house (whisper) 4 (ionic has a special section for old gachas but I don’t see this one)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

.ARISE. Ela Brows / Black (olde)

TuTy’s – black hairbase tattoo 2 (olde)

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Embroidered in the dungeon

No, now don’t get excited. This isn’t a new thing to do to your bottom’s body with needles and thread. This is an old-fashioned way of classing up your fetish gear. The Maria Shirt by Asteroid Box was a 50 Linden Friday special: there are smooth, sweet-looking snakes embroidered around the breasts and on the back. The floral pack of the Ila boots by Lybra gives us a bouquet stitched into blue denim. This look was supposed to conjure up another one of my modern mistresses or slaves—a player who doesn’t lead with their bared breasts. I figure this girl is a budding switch, trying to give out a top vibe. She’s a conscientious player. In some of her pouches she’s carrying things like dental floss for micro-bondage, rubber elastics for nipple torture, and clothes pins for tongue trapping. But she’s also packing healthy 72% dark chocolate for aftercare and a vial of arnica so she can alleviate any bottom’s pain, swelling, and bruising. (I carried arnica until I realized bottoms don’t want any of those things ameliorated.)

This is more like it: waiting in the dark at Sole, a femdom dungeon.

Legacy makeup my lovelies: old tat layers of bitty brows and face paint from ARISE.


AsteroidBox. Maria Shirt – Maitreya – FLF Exclusive

[CX] Hell’s Harbinger (Black Out+Silver) Maitreya collar

VINYL – Jello Shots: Panties – Maitreya

VINYL – Nerves Shorts – Maitreya Belt Pak Navy

LYBRA . ILA (maitreya) Floral Collection boots

.Olive. the Korine Hair Fatpack

Kibitz – Phoebe’s cuffs

Le Forme, Bento Nails Dk Blossom [MAITREYA]

La Malvada Mujer – The den of snakes  tattoo/1 (on Marketplace)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

.e l e i. Nabi (lipgloss)

.ARISE. Drift Tattoo HARD (tintable) (olde)

.ARISE. Ela Brows / Black (olde)

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2 (gift)

Rosier, Fragile eyes

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Lyrium, Val Idle Stands Breathing Poses

Make Pride

I’m marking Pride month with every celebratory heart in my inventory. Pride has expanded beyond the gay male community to represent multiple gender and sexual communities. This year I learned that the kink community is not friendly to asexuals. It’s great to see virtual rope classes that are dedicated to “LGBTQ” students. But where does that leave the I and the A students? The online asexual munch listed on FetLife consistently drew only two or three RSVPs. A recent Dating Kinky event on asexuality was canceled and has not been rescheduled. I like to joke that an asexual event will only work if it’s geared towards their allies. If the allies show up a few of us ace-types can sneak in. Read “Making Space for Ace (Asexuals) at Your Sex and Kink Parties.”

See you on the beach with this bag, a gift from Belle Epoque at Shop & Hop, where merchants are celebrating SL18B as well as Pride. My av’s hair is Mina’s gift at Shop & Hop. Limos below.


Belle Epoque, Candice Bag Pride Edition (gift at Shop & Hop)

MINA Hair – Shop & Hop 2021 hair (gift at Shop & Hop)

-[ vagrant ]- Monica Shirt – Maitreya – Rainbow Heart

Tee*fy Myla Shorts – CBlue – Maitreya

[RHUDE] Easy Earring 

Mad’ – Pride Rainbow Tattoo [Gay] (VIP gift at the shop)

namo. aine eyeshadow – periwinkle (evo)

Jack Spoon .Prue lashes (duo tone) – Lel Evo

.lovelysweet. cheekie accents pink hearts

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2

Blood +Fallen Gods Inc., Touch of a lover tattoo (olde)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Stun Poses, Diana