To play or not to play

Anyone who has been reading Pleisure knows that my fall 2016 rope walkabout was rough. I called one scene because I was being mauled. A Canadian man I really liked, and who seemed to really like me, ghosted. Etc. So I decided to be more careful about who I play with by getting to know a rigger before scening. After a successful first coffee, a potential partner and I made a plan to play a few weeks later. This seemed like a distant event, so I suggested we have dinner sometime in the intervening weeks. His dinner conversation was deeply discouraging. He told me he’d read my Fet profile and couldn’t give me what I want. He told me that he hates the idea of doing anything and that he loathes leaving his house even though he always enjoys himself when he goes out. He didn’t take me up on either of my sexy conversational gambits. I listened to what he had to say and responded patiently, but he persisted, insisted “It’s not you, it’s me.” I was remarkably calm when I told him that I didn’t see myself playing with someone who dreaded the idea of it. “Anticipation, shared between me and my partner, is essential,” I said. “I want to play with someone who is excited about playing with me. I’m not going to come up with a cute outfit for person who might not even show up.” I told him I’d think it over. So there I was, seriously considering passing up a rare opportunity to play, and to bottom for the first time since December, and not feeling like it was the end of the world. I might not be able to do better, but I was glad I could say I want better.
The next morning I texted a friend: “Am I getting to know people in order to weed out the idiots, or in order to find out how idiotic they are and adjust my expectations accordingly?” Her answer was “Both?” I was heading out of town so I had five days to think about what I wanted to do. My potential partner found some enthusiasm in the meantime. At dinner I told him I’m curious about far more than what my profile specifies, and I named some of my fantasies. This hadn’t moved him. Telling him we probably shouldn’t play and I’d get back to him apparently warmed his feet. After I got back into town, I contacted him and suggested we keep the date but not actually scene. “Let’s just do some rope.” He is now sending upbeat texts that conclude with exclamation marks. My suggestion that we aim for discomfort and dishevelment elicited a smiley face. Now I am the one who is reserved. I have an outfit in mind, but it’s not cute: a long silky voluminous dress will challenge the rigger in him rather than put my body on display. And I’ve resolved to negotiate for a hands-off aftercare—no cuddling, no compliments, just conversation. About carabiners, perhaps.

Credits
O V H [aka Overhigh] .Agnes Coat . maitreya (at Versus; this is an amazing steal because it’s a pack featuring four colours—black, grey, white and olive green)
AZOURY – Suzon Headwear with fur&rhinestones Gold [Black]
Le Morte – Lock3d Faith – Black collar
fri. – Sugar.Platforms (Lilac) for Maitreya Lara
Ama. : Taken : Black [face tat: may have been retired or may still be on sale] (I love Ama.)
9 RARE -[TWC]- Blossom tattoo maitreya (recently past gacha; not taking this off ever)
-Glam Affair – Sia Artic tone – 02 G (just plain old)
{S0NG} :: Chibi~ Abyss Eye
mijn.botique accessories / studded earrings n.2 (not available)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5
Marukin poses
[Kres], Kinky Neon Signs Gacha 10 [Obey] (at Kinky Monthly)

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Something so wrong

bright recruit I struggled to find a good setting for my av Anorak to pose in her sugarplum space fairy outfit. I had to give up on snowy fields and defaulted to Insilico, where I wandered as if through a desert. (Okay—closer to a parking garage.) I was shocked to discover this setup of a cloaked figure seated on a middle-eastern rug. Shocked because it’s not possible to ignore the reference. Immediately ISIL comes to mind. But instead of walking away disturbed, I decided to see how the allusion might change if Anorak loaned her glamour to the tableau. The contrast reminds me of those neo-imperialist Vogue magazine spreads shot in underdeveloped countries, where at least one photo shows the tall white model standing strong at the apex of a pyramid formed out of a group of small, dark-skinned locals. Only in my photo Anorak is the new recruit, not the lady bountiful, and her glow makes her an easier target than the khaki-cloaked tech.
azoury shoes I never run closeups of shoes. In fact I usually cut shoes out of my images because long shots on a laptop screen make my model look like half a string bean.
snowmanOne of these people has the whole world in their hands.lilacwine I was not lying when I said I was shooting outdoors—here with my other av Portia. I could publish a book of the pics that didn’t work out. No place for irony in the snow.

Credits
/Wasabi Pills/ Dawn Mesh Hair – Powder [NEW at Hairology; ty Miss!)
r2 A/D/E miyuki[pink]Lara (dress and panties for Maitreya’s Lara and Slink’s Physique and Hourglass at Collabor88)
Maitreya, Mesh Body – Lara V3.4
:BAMSE: Icy Headphones – 50 Cent (gacha at Kustom 9)
Kibitz – Starry bracelet – onyx (NEW at The Dressing Room)
AZOURY – Extravagance Heels (SLink) – Black
Slink, Avatar Enhancement Feet High V2.4
FnH, Laced High Stockings Latex Black
EF: Lil’Frosty Earring (gift at…aw shucks I forget)
Undefined Lilies, Wingding Silver (photo four) (not available)
MONS / Giftmas Day 13 (piercing-cheek) (advent calendar item still available for free group)
MONS / Giftmas Day 15 (septum ring) (advent calendar item still available for free group)
Sweet Thing. Sweet Rabbit Collar – Black (past gacha, check Marketplace)
Ali Couture, Goggles (not available, old hunt item)
White Widow, Deadman Black tattoo (was at Shiny Shabby which just closed, so check the mainstore)
NOX. Giftmas – Day 9 [Red] eye makeup (advent calendar item still available for free group)
***Chaisuki*** snow face tat (not available)
-Glam Affair – Sia Artic tone – 02 A (old special item)
pose one: Grafica Poses ~ Recruit (ty Alyx!)
pose two: PDA (not available)
pose three: Label Motion, My Cuddly Snowman (subo gift of adorbs snowman in three sizes and colour combos)

See the signs

nilfpixlrLast week the grid tossed up a veritable salad of signs and symbols, and I couldn’t resist compiling them into one teasingly interpretable ensemble. I particularly like the sandals from Wicca’s Wardrobe, which are her gift for the FemDom Hunt. They have red lipsticks for heels and a bold red lip print on each upper. Also of note, the latest VIP group gift from Spellbound features a nun’s headpiece lettered NILF. I suggest we can either pretend that we are so pure of heart that we can’t imagine what NILF stands for OR we can pretend that on Halloween there’s nothing scandalous about a sexy nun. Same thing as a sexy devil or a sexy pod person.
i saw the sign My av is wearing Nevery Lorakeet’s latest offering for LpD, the perfectly demure Optical Witch dress. The patterned dress is available only in black/white and only at The Instruments. My av is also wearing someone else’s noggin, Genesis Lab’s unsettling “albino” head Makena, which is a gift at Tres Chic. I’m feeling love for Genesis Lab because appliers for Maitreya’s Lara body and Slink hands and feet are free. I’m also feeling ire because the tattoos dispensed in the Wayward Halloween gacha don’t work with the heads I own.

Credits
NEW *LpD* – *Optical Witch* Dress (Mesh – XS) (at The Instruments; thank you Nevery!)
NEW +Spellbound+ Asylum (Halloween Gift) // Grimoire : Complete (VIP gift)
AZOURY – Scissors Necklace (Aluminium) common (gacha at Seasons Story)
Genesis_Lab, Head_Makena_2.0_Albino (gift at Tres Chic)
Genesis_Lab_Eyes_Tara (gacha at Wayward Halloween)
Maitreya, Lara Mesh Body – Lara V3.4 (Did you know that Genesis Lab appliers are free!?)
Slink, Avatar Enhancement Hands V2.1 – Casual
NEW Se Mi Tattoos, Fujutsu tat red, SLINK and system layers only (at SaNaRae)
Mad’ Dirty Nails, Slink only (VIP Gift)
#187# Handcuffs Melee Black-Gold [with leash option] (at TDR Fusion)
Slink, Female Feet (AvEnhance) XXS – High
Glitzz, Lovely Stockings (open gift)
NEW Wicca’s Wardrobe – Lipstick Heels, Slink only [FemDom Hunt]
pose two: Ma Vie, Subliminal pack
pose one: PDA (not available)