BDSM meets the moon

I had a wonderful experience at a recent rope convention with a man who needed a partner and advertised on Fet. I really liked him, to the point where I thought I might be finally meeting someone I could date. We spent some meals together and scened three times. He introduced me to breath play in the most moderate way possible and thrilled me in several other hot/mean ways. Things did go wrong at the con. I was triggered by a trigger warning. He did not handle that well, could not even empathize with me when I told him about being assaulted. But it was the last day, and he was already pulling away. A few days later, he wrote to check in and told me he was disappointed with the con and with missing the classes that I was unable to hack.

I tried over the past two weeks to be patient and let him go through drop and job stress and come out with positive feelings. But I stopped short of telling him he was an amazing top. I wanted to spare myself the humiliation I’ve experienced in the past: I would PM a top to tell him he was wonderful and describe the parts of our scene I loved, and I would hear nothing in response. I ended up humiliated anyway, because eventually, all my con partner could say was “Don’t worry, you were very good within the parameters.” I sent him an angry message in response to that, and he replied by saying that he’d reread all his messages and didn’t know what he’d said wrong. And felt sad. I then sent a conciliatory message, telling him that from my perspective we had been very lucky to find a partnership that was so enjoyable. We are both intellectuals. He likes good art, not Renoir. I found him attractive without wanting to have sex with him, which is perfect for rope and coincided with his limit on sex. He wore appealingly odd outfits, and would randomly touch my ankle or knee in an affectionate way during class. This was lovely because I wanted to touch him too, and that’s unusual for me: if there’s no connection and chemistry with a stranger, I have no way of faking it. Many times I have sat on mats separated from partners by two or three feet, feeling envious of the cuddling couples in the classes. This time I was with someone who invited me to get close without pressing for it, who even welcomed me when I asked if I could climb into his lap on a morning I was particularly stiff and tired. He stroked my back while I lay there and asked me if I purred. (Be warned: below the cut is a big bare butt.)
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Don’t wanna be a cowboy

donwannabeacowboySometimes I like to challenge myself, and the powers that be, by dressing my av in brown and giving her ponygirl dreams.

Credits
*PROMAGIC* Yodha – Bra – Brown (gacha at Kinky Monthly)
*PROMAGIC* Yodha – Panties – Brown (gacha at Kinky Monthly)
Kibitz – Dali’s leather torso straps [XS] brown – RARE (past gacha)
#EMPIRE – Ipomoea – Maitreya (fatpack only)
[e] Kabrina hair
Messiah : Qavah / Unisex / DBrown mask
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5
INYB, Lexi project tattoo (not available)
*Bolson / Face Tattoo – Fang (Fresh) (C) (no idea where this came from)
#adored – kit lashes
{S0NG} :: Cupid~ Dark Green Eye
-Glam Affair – Sia India – 04 C
poses: Ama & Nais – Cuffed pack (past Romp)
shot at: PFS Stables & Nico’s Haunted Dungeon

Till you come

creepingdawn A couple I met at Shibaricon moved to my town. Suddenly I have two people, both of them tops, to tie with. I’ve played twice with the male half. He describes his topping style as murderous. That’s definitely the right word. Playing with someone rough has helped me to realize that my relationship with my first, oh-so-gentle top was quite romantic. On my way home the first night I played with the new man, I was overwhelmed with vivid sense memories of playing with my top. I remembered the pleasure I took in his company. I especially enjoyed the cute way he smiled and said “uh huh” any time I told him I was going to kill him when I got out of the rope. He was dear to me.  I wish he hadn’t changed that.
learning patience This colour-change bondage set by Phedora looks lovely. But when I first put on the straps locking the wrist cuffs to the thigh cuffs, they were nowhere near where they should be. Editing the set was a fiddly, frustrating business, and I had to default to my curvy av, rather than the skinny model I wanted to shoot, in order to expedite the process. Although someone told me that hers worked out of the box, the product includes a notecard from the creator stating that it requires editing skills. This warning should have been on the vendor. Or the product should not have been released. Or the straps should have been scrapped.

The best pic from this shoot is on the Pleisure Flickr.

Credits
PHEDORA. Isidora set Maitreya Lara v.2 (was at Romp)
(r)M Hair No.39’16 fantasy (0.7-9) HUD
#14 Blueberry – Energy – Boots – Maitreya *Sky* (gacha)
[CX] aka [CerberusXing], Melted Hearts tattoo (red ass optional) (at Uber)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5
Glam Affair – Sia skin ( Fairy Tales ) – Jamaica 08 A
shot at Japan BDSM

Devolution of an image

what? “Why not break out of the bondage mould?” I thought to myself. Instead of heading to the dungeon in the three-piece Risa ensemble by Violent Seduction, I would create a fun, colourful character. Whom I promptly photographed in a serious environment—the lovely .anc. staircase with its lone window, where ethereal avs go to look otherworldly. It’s a rare gacha and takes pride of place on many an upscale sim. This one is It All Starts with a Smile. [We get kinky sexy under the cut.] Continue reading

Sensei cliché

bendysensei Portia is always bodacious. That can be exhausting. I needed to do demure tonight, so I pulled skinny Anorak out of the sandbox. I liked the school uniform by Me Sew Sexy at Sanarae: the big shoulder ruffles are as function-free as tailfins on a Cadillac. I stumbled across Kibitz’s gorgeous bondage leathers gacha and departed from tried and true black for red (which I bought up on Marketplace). Then I decided that there aren’t enough female senseis in the world. At this point Anorak had turned into an ersatz Japanese wise-old-young-schoolgirl in bondage bliss, so I decided to adorn her hair with more random signifiers of Nipponeseness. (Of course that’s not a word.) If you venture beyond the cut you will find another shot of Lava’s Resort, which is hung with lovely drawings and photographs of roped women. And I’ll throw in a brief account of my odd adventures in subspace. Continue reading

Strung up

december There’s nothing wholesome beyond this portrait featuring Glam Affair’s Arcade skin, so don’t venture below the cut if you’ve ever thought the devil is in the juicy details. Continue reading

Coddled captive

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Naughty’s not easy

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A friend asked me what the hell Hedda was wearing on her snatch. This wasn’t one of those conversations in which a man objects to a trend because it makes a woman less sexy (e.g., a long skirt in the summer when, in theory, legs should be on display). This was one of the most important questions in SL, because finding something to provide the tiniest bit of coverage for an av’s pudendum is tough. (This post gets naughtier, but also mildly amusing, under the cut.) Continue reading

Heavy sighs

moody Don’t sigh over end-of-the-month shopping withdrawal. Go back to World Goth Fair, which is raising funds for the Sophie Lancaster Foundation, and buy Excess, the 50% donation item from Sakide. It’s an elegant combination of the rubber leggings you see here with a matching cropped bustier. Portia has accessorized this look with the rare nipple punisher from The Fallen at Fantasy Gacha Carnival. Having never seen the like of this cruel piercing, I had to have it and was lucky enough to win the whole ultra rare ensemble on the first play. It also contains a handsome pair of chain-trimmed leather cuffs scripted to bind your av’s wrists to her ankles.  Continue reading