The rare obligation

cagedbirddsontsingharper I’ve had some rope adventures in recent weeks, and maybe I haven’t posted because I was waiting for a scene to shake me hard enough to make it worth relating. I did have to go through a period of mourning after the extremely attractive man who lives in a foreign city ghosted on me. (See Express Yourself for my post about meeting him.) When we met we had talked about me going back to see him. But when I suggested online that we could ponder this possibility, he told me he needed to acquire more experience and education before we could tie again. I exhorted him very cutely to practice on me, but he didn’t reply. (Why venture under the cut? You’ll just be freaked out by sexy stuff. I wasn’t going to publish this post, but Flickr marked my account as unsafe. So let’s try to live up to that. A little.) Continue reading

Defying gravity and myself

when two tats go to war As a neurotic blogger it’s my job—nay, my pleisure—to prevent myself from succeeding. For instance, I am careful to make the same mistakes as often as I can. And I restrict myself with silly rules rather than set myself sublime goals. Today I decided to defy my habit of shooting myself in the foot. (In the foot because the silly rule says that thighs are for arrows. And kneecaps are for gangsters.) For this pictorial, I tinkered for two days trying to get the right combo of tattoos to fill up the fields of flesh exposed by R2 A/D/E’s dress. The tats then spent a day playing “now you see it now you don’t” on Maitreya’s Lara body. Typically I fail to photograph the elements that were toughest to coordinate—see the last pic in this post for an example—or I don’t like the picture and decide not to use it. Not this time. Not after three days of hasslement. I deliberately shot the tricky tats head on and I am posting the pic even though I dislike it. Why do I dislike it? Because I deliberately shot the tricky tats head on. Obviously.
crop rosegold face If you asked me I’d tell you that I never do closeup shots because they are pure vanity. Really I’m concerned that the closer the shot the more obvious my limitations will be. Today I fear that you will see my misplacement of nose-rings or my 1,286th failure to correct the dumb dent in the line of my av’s upper lip. If this pic made it into the post it’s because I deliberately shot it half blurred, guaranteeing that it would be 50% less bad. Continue reading

Evil queen is evil

2nd light evil queen in cave These pics just rolled off my screen. I had so much fun shooting my av in the new makeup appliers from La Petite Morte. These are for Lelutka (worn here) and Catwa heads. There are seven variations on sinister wintry looks for the Quinn skin. Best of all? It’s a VIP group gift and the join fee is a mere 100L.
penguin plebesThe Meva advent calendar is my favourite this year—even though I joined late and that meant missing out on everything leading up to the 16th. This headdress is a recent gift, no longer available alas. Again there is a 100L join fee, but based on what I’ve been seeing from Meva creator Mea Carnell, the gifts are going to be more and more gorgeous as we scamper unto Xmas. I love the real-life advent calendars too, in a resolutely atheist “mmm chocolate” way. Opening those little numbered doors takes me back to childhood happiness. A child can take pleasure in having small fingers. Adults are too clumsy to work the windows, so there’s only one’s little brother to squabble with over the prizes.

Maai, ” Dominatrix ” mesh dress
.LeLutka.Mesh Head-STELLA v1.3
La Petite Morte, Quinn Lelutka head applier (VIP gift; see above)
Exile::Hazy Days (naturals pack):ieQED dragon.pauldron.titanium.
:ieQED dragon.pauldron.titanium.
Zaara : Banjara silver choker
Maitreya, Mesh Body – Lara V3.4
MONS / Giftmas Day 3 (piercing-upperlips) (still available; free group join)
::Sn@tch, Suede Wristband cuff (old gift)
pose: flowey, from an old 50L Friday pack
shot at The Cove public cave

what’s different in the second pic?
Meva, Medi Flower Headpiece (advent gift; see above)
shot at Meva sim

Green, I am envious

hungup I Flickr follow a number of talented SL photographers who favour BDSM themes. I am envious because I can’t figure out where they source their bondage outfits and props. For years Prairie Kawashima has unknowingly taunted me with her androgynous naked Asian av, who poses modestly in perfectly snug delicate rope harnesses. Driscol Byron’s subs, Laura, a Surprise Package in the Kink Department, Sacha Audeburgh, Ash and Laura Demonista appear latexed and leathered, wrapped and strapped, and bound and gagged to within an inch of their corsets. But with the exception of the gifted Surprise Package, who has begun to blog, none of them names her sources. This leaves me searching for kinky gear on the Marketplace, where I was finally rewarded for my submissive patience (or obstinacy) when I found some affordable fetish wear from DRBC. Continue reading

Future kink

mistressThe leather crop never goes out of style. Portia’s toy comes with Ma Vie’s pack of Mistress poses created for the latest round of Romp.
shame shame I like this candid AO-only shot displaying Portia’s deep shame at being ejected from Insilico for several offences.

Ma Vie. – Mistress pose pack (comes with crop) (for ROMP)
Exile::KIssing Strangers Natural Fusion 2 (at Collabor88)
r2 A/D/E hika[S]sheer1 (at Collabor88)
r2 A/D/E kagetsu boots[XS]sheer
[Chariot] Cyborg Fashion Choker – White
. a i s l i n g . Simple Nosechain / Gold
[Modern.Couture] Jewelry – Mika Bracelet Gold
-Glam Affair – December skin – AFRICA 02 A (Arcade gacha)
shot at Insilico

Ruffle me this

uh oh Aliza Karu of Angels and Demons Creations is back with dramatic gowns designed for the latest edition of Ferosh magazine, which is fabulous. I stripped 00:00 down to the bones: lots of rear ruffles calling attention to long bared legs and a harness decked with lace-filled picture frames. You can wear just one picture frame but I figure three gets you the full-on Guilty Remnant feel. (That’s not an obscure reference if Justin Theroux makes you melt.)
fair play Turn about is fair play. I hear tell of a tiny female domme who is topping a top I dislike. All she’s needed is an evil laugh, a little rope and a smattering of seeding. It couldn’t happen to a meaner guy.

[AD] 00:00 (NEW; see the whole outfit here; ty Aliza!)
Exile::Check Out Time (NEW at Collabor88)
[theSkinnery]Ming-Bare face(ebony) BB CL2
Nox. Beauty Marks [Four]
Visage, Beauty Marks – set 07 – dark
*MY UGLYDOROTHY -Freckles w Moles
.la petite morte. regret under liner. black
Goth1c0: Arcane tattoo chest (ye olde iteme)
*BOOM* Fearless wrist cuff (v2) Silver
*Reign.- Monarch Heels- Black
poses PDA
shot at Tierra de Fuego


sway I’ve been shopping yard sales instead of trying to get into The Arcade. Portia’s lavishly long locks from Exile and beady-eye-beaded horns from Half Deer are my faves so far. On the one hand, I love buying items I like. On the other hand, I need to play some gachas because choosing only one among the multiple shades of Ingenue’s sandals would be tough. I don’t understand how Glam Affair’s Aria works, so I am going to have to play it until I do understand it.

burnttred On the third hand—I’m borrowing one of yours—I can’t find some things I want, like fd’s and Truth’s hairdos. And, back to Ingenue, lilac and iris are flooding the market, but I am holding out for sepia because I’m some kind of self-denying minimalist. Ultimately—hand me your other hand—I like the yard sale scene best when I buy a resale item from a person I know. It’s one of those weirdly attenuated, almost parodic, possibly soul-destroying social acts that SL affords us.

Essences, Paris02 *light rose* skin ginger with Teeth and new Moles layer included (at TDRF)
Exile::Rain, Extremes pack (at The Arcade)
+Half-Deer+ Aventine Horns – VampEYEr (at The Arcade)
*{Junbug}* M’lady in Crimson S RARE (current Fantasy gacha carnival)
.Enfant Terrible. Midsommer Dream Apple Bracelet mixed -CBOX  (current Fantasy gacha carnival)
Slink, Avatar Enhancement Hands – Casual –
blackliquid, Nails fall floral
MONS / Shocking eyes – brown
BENT, Escher set (not available)

Grief and sorceress


You know you’ve gone too far with the restricted palette and matchy-matchy aesthetic when you coordinate your av’s patterned LpD skirt with a spotted wizarding toad. (I <3 it.) Continue reading

It’s sexy because it’s witty

I think a dusky-hued prairie skirt paired with a sleeveless, collarless t-shirt in an undistinguished shade of grey is sexy. I am given to understand that most people do not share my opinion. Am I weird? My therapist thinks so. Last month, she observed that although I am attractive, I don’t dress to attract attention, and this may be one of the reasons I can’t meet men. It’s true that I don’t dress to attract attention. But I didn’t realize subtlety was a handicap in the romance department. Was my therapist telling me that if I started to wear high heels on a daily basis I would have better chances with men? Could it be that simple? Picture me discovering at age 45 that my life could have been a sex romp if I’d worn perfume. (Never mind that perfume gives me headaches.) Picture me bawling. Between sobs, I objected strongly to my therapist’s picture of the world. She wasn’t allowing for the possibility that atypical modes of dress solicit attention from men who are smart (or weird) enough to appreciate alternatives. I can’t afford Margiela or Marni, so I buy clothes that allude to references to citations of avant-garde design. (Fashion does trickle down.) Not being able to wear Bjork’s swan dress means I have to opt for something a little less obviously conceptual. That’s perfect for me because I actually prefer subtle conceits. A hidden pocket in an unusual place is more appealing to me than a shoe in the shape of a hat.
break2skin Oftentimes, I choose things that appeal to my sense of irony, not to what I imagine is a male’s sense of sex appeal. Years ago, I bought a low-cut sundress from J. Crew because the pin-striped men’s shirt fabric wittily contradicted the ur-feminine neckline. (It didn’t hurt that it did my boobs good, but that alone wouldn’t have sold me on the dress.) This dress made a date drool, but he had a head-start on drool because he’d found me attractive before he saw me in the dress. When my date complimented my dress, I pointed out the conceit behind it. I admit that my date was not further inflamed by the gender-clash staged on my body. But the important thing is that I found him more attractive because he accepted the idea that clothing could be ironic and he respected my pleasure in it. I want to believe that when I forego black heels in favor of brogues in pale lilac suede, I am attracting attention not from men generally, but from the right kind of men. The ones who will get me. (Because only the ones who get me will, y’know, get me.) What do you think? Should I cast a wider net?

Credits to creators
NYU – Cross Strap Skirt, Grey (Size 2) (comes with a t-shirt; at The Boutique)
R3volt – Jade Cuffs [V3] (NEW; colour change)
AC’s, Leather Cuffs biceps (complete cuffs and collar, set free on Marketplace)
REDGRAVE, Helena shoes – 12colors (NEW)
Exile::Fire To The Rain Natural Fusion 2 [oy, so many choices…] (at Fameshed)
Essences – Thursday *light rose* blonde (former TDRF item) with lipstick by The Skinnery (from Skin Fair)
pose: Del May, Grecian girl
pose: Captivity Co, Breaking Out
GIMP had his work cut out for him