Blog’s labour lost

I first accessorized Salt’s Brianna dress when it was a fresh offering at April’s ROMP. I used a cute hairstyle that came with a rose gag, something I picked up at a pervy fair running at the same time. I even had the perfect pose, also from that fair. Anise, my av, was looking sweet-but-hot in her Glam Affair applier. I was going to take achingly au courant pictures. But I didn’t have the time to shoot. When I popped the outfit on my av yesterday, I discovered that the hair/gag appeared dated and my av’s face seemed silly. It took me ages to refresh the look. I’d already used the pose in another post, so I went in search of a prop. You know how it goes. I shot for ages in a pose prop I wasn’t excited about, never getting a photo I was happy with. Finally, I chose a Windlight I no longer use and got this stunning effect. It’s still not an ensemble I’m happy with, and it doesn’t show off the amazing dress, which has a temptingly open backside. But it’s an aesthetic departure for me so I was excited by it. This in spite of the fact that my av looks ugly and demented (thanks to a free Foxcity expression HUD). All that hard work and frustration and all the unbeauty I reluctantly embraced led to the inevitable: the pic tanked on Flickr.*
Meanwhile, I threw together this outfit in a hot minute. It includes a colour-change dress by Scandalize and hair by Fabia, both gifts at Très Chic. I shot it quickly, when I was too tired to try anything fancy, and with no plan to post it. I used a tried-and-true Windlight and an old pose I adopt far too often. Guess what happened. It’s steaming up the charts on Flickr.(Okay, as steaming as my photos get.** It’s going to get more than 20 likes.) The moral of the story is: fuck this blogging thing is fucking hard to figure out, even after 7 years. Also: don’t let me go to Uber.

*Pubic hair means the pic is restricted. Since it’s not erotic I didn’t post it in any of the sexy/sex groups. Maybe I should have done better by it.
**In fact, there’s not so much steam here. It’s a comparatively classy ensemble.

Credits for things I didn’t mention in the post
Pic one
pose prop by EvoLove
hair by Dura
cuffs/collar by Salt and Pepper
ginger (yay) pubic hair by Rose and Elin’s Curiosity Shoppe on Marketplace
Pic two
location Comhar (see last post for URL)
shoes old N-Core gift
pose so so olde PDA perfection


Pony play night and day

If I waited any longer to find the right words, and add all the credits, these pics would molder on my desktop.
My av is outfitted in elements from the Lovely Sadist gacha by Cureless, including white pony mitts and the rare colour-change costume. The costume is a complex ensemble but it has to be worn all at once. The fun is in assigning colours to the half-dozen pieces. My av is prancing prettily in astoundingly beautiful footwear, konpeitou’s hooved geta from the sakura-ame gacha collection. Connoisseurs will notice that konpeitou’s surreal tabi are shot through with a blossoming cherry tree branch. Both gacha collections are at The Epiphany until May 12th. My command of Simone’s facial expressions has improved. I reached way back to give my av an extra-sexy feminist air by dusting off LeLutka’s Brigitte hairdo, named of course for la Bardot. She’s got legs.

Pink version
CURELESS[+] Lovely Sadist / BabyDom Attire / RARE (Epiphany gacha)
CURELESS[+] Lovely Sadist / Pony Mittens / WHITE (Epiphany gacha)
*{( konpeitou )}* sakura-ame * GETA sakura petal (Epiphany gacha)
*{( konpeitou )}* sakura-ame * TABI sakura branch ((Epiphany gacha)
Kibitz – Bling choker – fem white – gold (Epiphany gacha)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
[LeLutka]-BRIGITTE hair – Marilyn
.LeLutka.Head.Simone 3.0

Black version
Doe: Peyton – Indecisive
CURELESS[+] Lovely Sadist / BabyDom Attire / RARE (Epiphany gacha)
CURELESS[+] Lovely Sadist / Pony Stockings / BLACK (Epiphany gacha)
+Spellbound+ Magical Pony Bit // Gold/Pitch
#187# Handcuffs Melee Black-Gold
Ama. : Whipped Ass and Thighs : Maitreya Applier
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
CURELESS[+] Lovely Sadist / Kinky stuffie / BLACK (Epiphany gacha)

Black rose kimono

Moon over the moon in the latest elegant kimono from Silvery K, which comes with several fabric-change options for everything but the outer layer of the robe. I have to say that the Japanese custom of combining multiple fabrics in varying palettes and textures freaks the hell out of me. I had to work very hard to stop trying to match everything.I like this pile of pots, which I found in the only classy spot, next to the food cart, at Anico, an anime / manga hangout.
Mostly showing off what a pretty lady I made out of LeLutka’s Simone head with some help from La Malvada Mujer makeup.

NEW *:..Silvery K..:*KimonoMesh(Papion Rose)Black —includes rose geta (and rose choker, kimono wrap, and obi roses not shown) (at Japonica)
.LeLutka.Head.Simone 3.0
Glam Affair ( Lelutka Heads ) LiuLy ( Artic ) 02
La Malvada Mujer – Nefelina Eyeshadow Omega applier (new group gift or 10L on Marketplace if it’s not in notices)
La Malvada Mujer – Infinite Sadness goldstars Omega (10L on Marketplace)
.ARISE. Ela Brows / Black lelutka applier
LeLutka, Rogue Bun (came with Stella head)
AsteroidBox. Choke Rope // Blue (kinky gacha at Kagami)
La Malvada Mujer – Persiguiendo el Dragon[horns] (not available)
Chop Zuey, Tensha Beads Texture Change Earrings (past gift)
_CD_ Lilly Earring (past gift)
White Widow, Earthlings tattoo (past POE hunt gift)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
The pose props in the first two pictures are among dozens kindly collected for everyone’s use by Anne Maertens at Comhar

What you made me do

Could this be Pleisure’s first faux-Japanese-schoolgirl rope-pron post? If so: needs more rope.
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Babes (with a bit of bondage)

I met the owner of Floating World while I was shooting some new Tentacio and Fallen Gods gacha goodies. We talked about rope. :)
I didn’t get a good shot of Tentacio’s Dirty Okobos, which come with skeleton feet, so I had to get this shot right. It took me forever. The longer I beheld Anorak bound and bent over the more I realized what a horrific punishment pose this would be.

Photo 1
Tentacio, Tomoto kimono skirt dark (Arcade gacha) Fallen Gods, Venus Anatomica Black (Twisted Hunt prize: one of many colors hidden separately)
{Ama. : Blood Splatter includes Omega applier and Full Body Tattoo for classic avs, in light and heavy splatter
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
Kibitz – Dali’s leather hand cuffs red (past gacha)
Kibitz – Leather collar sensei
[BP] War Fans v03 common (past gacha)
NOX. Giftmas – Day 23 [Indo Septum – Black] n/a
{S0NG} :: Aimi~ Aqua Eye
-Glam Affair – Caroline Skin – New Day – Artic A (n/a)

Photo 2 and 3
Tentacio, Let me Breathe Oxygen mask RARE (at Gacha Garden)
Tentacio, Let me Breathe white Harness (includes top and botom) (at Gacha Garden)
Tentacio, Tomoto kimono skirt candy (Arcade gacha)
Tentacio, Tomoto okobos candy (Arcade gacha)
*DG*64 (Dark Red)
ALTAIR* spike cuffs .pink. (past gacha)
*The Cove* Ever and Never Rings (ummmm…)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
{S0NG} :: Anim~ Aqua Eye
-Glam Affair – Sasha skin – India 01 NB (past gacha)
Izzie’s – Nose Bleed 1 (classic avatar)
[:T:] Runny 1 n/a
pose in photo 2 is from the prop Libertine, Justine Mature Edition [2.0]
shot at Fallen Gods
photo 3 pose by Slouch

Abuse of power comes as a terrible surprise

For the fourth week in a row, a prominent member of the rope community has been outed for repeat consent incidents. In one case these were sexual violations in private. In another, negligence in private. In a third, abuse of a partner in private. In a fourth—well we’ll see why the fuck he was doing what he was doing in classes. (And yes, these are all men.) Three of the four are—or rather were, in the first case—teachers with whom I have taken classes. You know I love my rope classes. I’ve been to six rope cons, two of Graydancer’s GRUEs, and countless local classes and intensives. Right now I feel sick, not just because of the revelations about power abuse by rope tops, but because I had my own experience of a nonconsensual incident with a teacher. I thought I put the bad feelings behind me. These included feeling embarrassed for not stopping it, which was made worse because my community may have seen me not stop it. I also lost my respect for him as a teacher, lost the respect he gives me as a [decent and somewhat fun] student, and the identification I feel with him as someone whose philosophy I appreciate deeply. I got over the bad feelings, got back a sense of mutual respect, and came to understand what happened as a serious error in judgment on his part. Partly in response to the recent revelations, I told the teacher that he didn’t ask for permission to suddenly and aggressively take me out of the rope my partner had tied. He apologized for not asking. I told him it’s okay. But is it? The bad feelings I endured when it happened came back after I talked to him. They have receded again, but I am really fucking wary right now.
I know this teacher always asks for permission to touch a student because I hear him ask when he circulates in the class. Why was I the person who wasn’t asked for permission? Was it because he believed I wouldn’t object? One of the things we bottoms struggle with is being dubbed “unsafe” when we don’t communicate about things going wrong. (Apparently now we need to be prepared to safeword in class as well as scene.) One of the things I struggle with as a new top is the fear that I am going to fuck things up. I have been talking a lot with my regular bottom to ensure that our negotiations are more thorough. In addition, I have asked him to tell me if he feels retroactively creeped out by something that he was okay with during the scene. (I was okay when the teacher took me out of the rope. It was pleasantly physically and psychologically challenging and a little hot. The next day I wasn’t okay.) I also told my regular top that it is possible that I too may experience delayed effects, or effects that come and go, and she needs to be prepared for that. One of the things I’m cherishing right now is the trust I have with both of them.

If you are a member, you can find good FetLife writings on and for bottom safety in all senses at Rope Bottoming Resources. If you need a model for dealing with a consent incident or need to prep yourself and other community members in case one occurs, check out Consent Rocks.

_CD_ Raku Boots Black – Maitreya Lara (at that Punk thing)
(first pic) Moon. Hair. // Devour (gg)
(second pic) old Ayashi gg
Mossu – Temptress.Choker – Black – Maitreya
Tentacio—red ribbon kimono black & red (with panties)
Tentacio—Rune spell
Violent Seduction – Ume Hime Tanto (Red) (sword)

Ladylike latex

-Pixicat- Dragon.Dress Seductive nr1 (Maitreya) RARE (gacha at Epiphany)
07_{-Maru Kado-} Halo-Yubikiri Black (gacha at Kagami event)
tomoto, bell geta pink (maitreya) (gacha at Kagami event)
Zenith, Hydrangea Arborescens Purple (gacha at Crystal Heart event)
Dura, *DG*64 (Light red)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
[CX] Biomech Claws (Maitreya) (limited time group gift)
: Amorous : You bracelet n/a
Saga, Bohemian Flower Tattoo (gift)
[theSkinnery]Ming-Bare face(honey) NB CL2 n/a
.Birdy. Red (Scar) Porcelaine
.Pekka. HOMICIDAL Lipstick (fear)
[CX] Noh Eyeliner Style 1 (Tintable)
Rotten Toe, Goth brows 1
#adored – kit lashes
{S0NG} :: San~ Aqua Eye
pose 1 Nantra, Syzygy 4M
pose 2 X, Schoolgirl 1
shot at Filthy Sakura