Embroidered in the dungeon

No, now don’t get excited. This isn’t a new thing to do to your bottom’s body with needles and thread. This is an old-fashioned way of classing up your fetish gear. The Maria Shirt by Asteroid Box was a 50 Linden Friday special: there are smooth, sweet-looking snakes embroidered around the breasts and on the back. The floral pack of the Ila boots by Lybra gives us a bouquet stitched into blue denim. This look was supposed to conjure up another one of my modern mistresses or slaves—a player who doesn’t lead with their bared breasts. I figure this girl is a budding switch, trying to give out a top vibe. She’s a conscientious player. In some of her pouches she’s carrying things like dental floss for micro-bondage, rubber elastics for nipple torture, and clothes pins for tongue trapping. But she’s also packing healthy 72% dark chocolate for aftercare and a vial of arnica so she can alleviate any bottom’s pain, swelling, and bruising. (I carried arnica until I realized bottoms don’t want any of those things ameliorated.)

This is more like it: waiting in the dark at Sole, a femdom dungeon.

Legacy makeup my lovelies: old tat layers of bitty brows and face paint from ARISE.


AsteroidBox. Maria Shirt – Maitreya – FLF Exclusive

[CX] Hell’s Harbinger (Black Out+Silver) Maitreya collar

VINYL – Jello Shots: Panties – Maitreya

VINYL – Nerves Shorts – Maitreya Belt Pak Navy

LYBRA . ILA (maitreya) Floral Collection boots

.Olive. the Korine Hair Fatpack

Kibitz – Phoebe’s cuffs

Le Forme, Bento Nails Dk Blossom [MAITREYA]

La Malvada Mujer – The den of snakes  tattoo/1 (on Marketplace)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

.e l e i. Nabi (lipgloss)

.ARISE. Drift Tattoo HARD (tintable) (olde)

.ARISE. Ela Brows / Black (olde)

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2 (gift)

Rosier, Fragile eyes

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Lyrium, Val Idle Stands Breathing Poses

Make Pride

I’m marking Pride month with every celebratory heart in my inventory. Pride has expanded beyond the gay male community to represent multiple gender and sexual communities. This year I learned that the kink community is not friendly to asexuals. It’s great to see virtual rope classes that are dedicated to “LGBTQ” students. But where does that leave the I and the A students? The online asexual munch listed on FetLife consistently drew only two or three RSVPs. A recent Dating Kinky event on asexuality was canceled and has not been rescheduled. I like to joke that an asexual event will only work if it’s geared towards their allies. If the allies show up a few of us ace-types can sneak in. Read “Making Space for Ace (Asexuals) at Your Sex and Kink Parties.”

See you on the beach with this bag, a gift from Belle Epoque at Shop & Hop, where merchants are celebrating SL18B as well as Pride. My av’s hair is Mina’s gift at Shop & Hop. Limos below.


Belle Epoque, Candice Bag Pride Edition (gift at Shop & Hop)

MINA Hair – Shop & Hop 2021 hair (gift at Shop & Hop)

-[ vagrant ]- Monica Shirt – Maitreya – Rainbow Heart

Tee*fy Myla Shorts – CBlue – Maitreya

[RHUDE] Easy Earring 

Mad’ – Pride Rainbow Tattoo [Gay] (VIP gift at the shop)

namo. aine eyeshadow – periwinkle (evo)

Jack Spoon .Prue lashes (duo tone) – Lel Evo

.lovelysweet. cheekie accents pink hearts

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2

Blood +Fallen Gods Inc., Touch of a lover tattoo (olde)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Stun Poses, Diana

Going nowhere slow

In December of 2020 I decided that I was tired of seeing female tops and bottoms wearing almost nothing. Enough with the flesh, I thought. I pumped out two solidly clad mistresses but lost steam before I got to this submissive. Believe it or not, I have been hobbling around the grid in ballet boots and straitjacket for more than five months.

The Duchesse boots by Voluptas Virtualis are gorgeous sleek treats, the first high-quality boot I’ve seen in 14 years inworld. The fat pack is affordable, so you can play with colour combos until your top cries red. The boots come in matte and glossy versions. Sadly, Faina Cortes has closed her inworld store, La Malvada Mujer, but you can find goods like the Rhea tattoo on Marketplace.

The highly detailed straitjacket—with the lovely name of Sealed Entity—is by CerberusXing. It comes with a bloody version. There is also a male version.

This pic gets closer to the feeling of fearful anticipation I’d like to experience in the dungeon. It’s too dark to be a fashion photo but too static to capture the energy of a scene, so it’s not winning any awards from kinksters or fashionistas over at Flickr. It is, however, bigger, so go savor the shadows. Thank you to Twizsted Cynaiade, who helped me find the legacy Windlight I used for this, my first shoot with the souped-up environment settings.


V/.VoluptasVirtualis – Duchesse/Glossy – {ML} + ankle_lock

[CX] Sealed Entity – Female (Clean) C

=Zenith=Harnesses Short (Black) Maitreya (shorts only)

tram, K0129 hair

La Malvada Mujer – Rhea Tattoo / N1

.Shi : Journey Earring [Unisex.Left] (n/a gift)

[Glam Affair ] Anika 003

[Glam Affair ] Anika Asian Eyes Layer 003

Harana – Mei Brows 03 – Black // LELU EVO with Mewsery, CryBaby Eyebrow [SHAPER]

La Malvada Mujer – Atropo lipstick

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2 (gift)

I lost the info for the lashes and eyeliner (soz)

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Rosier, Fragile Eyes

[GOS + o0o] Pouffe small black (available at GOS)

Another thoroughly modern mistress

I quarantined to see my mother, who has dementia and who I haven’t seen since March. That meant daily anxiety miraculously cured enough by clonazepam that I stopped thinking about throwing myself off the balcony. I didn’t have a problem not leaving the rented apartment for 14 days. I did have a problem functioning. Things are only marginally better now. I can no longer stand to go for the walks that have sustained me thus far through COVID. I am just too discouraged and aimless.

Luckily, I managed one day to escape to SL, where I shot another of my modern mistresses. Yes it’s possible to top without wearing only straps and heels! For those of you who do not possess a bio-cock, Abrasive’s inexpensive strap-on fat pack allows you to change colours of the panties and the prick. I have to say that none of the colors looks that appealing in darkness. Experiment with all the lights on!

I find this Zenith top (and panties not shown) incredibly sexy. It’s made of a very fine translucent and oh-so-touchable material. Neither it nor the loose harness (that can be worn alone) is constricting. I’m a rope top so I understand the need to move in my outfits. Sexy is not about what we show but what we don’t show. The body is there and it’s almost within reach. Unless one has to be a good boy or girl or non-binary bottom and NOT TOUCH.

Winter is always a good time to start with some sensation play.


[ abrasive ] Passion Strap-On – Maitreya – Fat Pack

*COCO*_ThighHighBoots(Black)_MT NEW

=Zenith=Harnesses Top (Black) Maitreya 

Avada~ Ballerina Matrix Nails – Maitreya (Materials)

e.marie // Lia Earrings  – VIP gift

etham – Leather Cuff Bracelet – Heavy Duty (old)

.: Fiore :. High Expectations Pony (back) NEW with

.: Fiore :. Wispy Corner Hairs – Tone 1 / Chestnut

.: Fiore :. Slick N’ High Hairbase – Tone 1 / Chestnut

Jack Spoon . Presley Gloss – Lelutka Evolution (at Sultry)

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2 (group gift)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

LeLUTKA.Head.Ryn.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

last shot: Fashiowl – Are You Home

most shots: Stun, Melani

I want to be her

I stopped blogging kinky outfits because of the glut of hyper-sexualized heteronormative outfits I was seeing everywhere on the grid. 50 Shades of Grey must have sold many more copies than I thought. Delicate-looking lingerie with plenty of straps was feeling v. lite, like bedroom bondage babewear. The sight of thongs made from pearls bound to slide up one’s hoohaw had me worried about realism.

Happily, I found the Pretzel lingerie and straps from Vinyl, which look solid, comfortably contemporary. There is no underwire in that bra, no big bazooms boasting soft power. If not perfectly non-binary, the outfit at least swings butch with the right pair of practical boots from Asteroid Box. They are perfect for stomping and a bootblack’s dream. The semi-concealed knife could work well for fear play. C’est la vie’s wool over-the-knee socks keep cold dungeon air at bay and aren’t going to tear during a scene.

And then there’s Moon’s Noeky hair with feathery bangs. In the 1940s, my paternal grandmother threatened to disown her daughter when she got her hair cut in bangs. Because only the bad girls wore bangs on the silver screen.


VINYL – Pretzel Bra , Panties, Harnesses- Maitreya Lara

AsteroidBox. Obsidian Boots – Maitreya Lara

C’est La Vie—Jody rib socks #2 (these are an olde version—look for the new version)


Zibska, Cynthia ~ Crop (olde)

Kibitz – Elle’s choker – onyx

itGirls -HAKU (Lelutka Nova Head) 1

La Malvada Mujer – La Marchesa Lipstick /Lelutka BoM N7

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS1 (group gift)

La Malvada Mujer – Love  / Brows  N2 Lelutka (group gift)

LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.1

Psycho Pills – Usagi Shape edited 

MUDSKIN, Softy Lens 7 Lelutka (ARCADE gacha)

Poses: 1 and 3 Mewsery, Senpai poses; 2 [x] Schoolgirl 1 (olde)

I didn’t know…

…my av could look this cute. I’ve long admired this kind of Asian face with a long nose. I imagined that only the most skilled manipulator of at least five factors could get this look. Turns out all I needed was the Usagi skin in icecream from Psycho Pills with the shape included. Remember those crazy days when we couldn’t look like the picture on the box?!
This is the time of year when all the creators get their bikinis out on the shelves. I figured I’d also pretend that we are not yet faced with the ugly kale and chrysanthemums of fall.

Psycho Pills x A.Doutzen – Usagi Skin Eyelid 2 (icecream) comes with Psycho Pills – Usagi Shape and brows
Izzie’s – Eyebrow Concealer 05 65%
[Heaux] Cute Bits – Wet Gloss, Inner Eye Highlight, Blush
LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)
tram, J0713 hair(S)(Style1) HUD C I think
Tee*fy Myla Shorts – Lime – Maitreya
Tee*fy Romy Lacey Top- Jellybean – Maitreya
.::Supernatural::. Maddie Necklace Gold
[RHUDE] Easy Earring lt Gold
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.1
Stun Poses, Diana pack

Beauty in suffering

If you feel like this and would prefer not to, you’re a lousy masochist. For instant relief check out Chill’s free meditation sessions. Chill is hosting complimentary 10-15 min Zoom sessions every Mon, Wed + Fri at 12:30pm CDT. It’s also on IG Live every Tue, Thur, and Sun at 9am CDT, but the link for that is busted. If you enjoy seeing a lovely bottom’s distress there’s more under the cut. In addition to the nudity, you will doubtless enjoy another relaxation tip from your lovely blogger. Continue reading

LeLutka evolution (or, ooh shiny!)

I bought Erin, from LeLutka’s Evolution line, because I wanted to get in on the conversation the group was having. I played with the demo for a while, not convinced I needed a new head. (I had just made friends with Korina at Xmas time.) I bought the head because sharing the technical challenge and styling adventure made me feel less lonely. I was thrilled to kit Erin out in Glam Affair’s Adele, which is the first GA skin I have bought since the tones changed. I have watched in horror as skin after skin appeared with white highlights in more and more bizarre shapes. Adele feels like a return to the good old days when we tolerated flatness because we knew we were playing with images, not trying to look real. Erin can be used with skin appliers but she is designed to be a BOM head, which means there’s a learning curve. It starts with balking at the fact that you’re going to leave all your appliers behind. The good news is that you can wear old tattoo layers if you’re working with BOM.
It’s not like I didn’t know what all those white splotches were meant to be on GA skins. Erin is great because distracting highlights can be added via the HUD rather than drawn into the skin. Getting all the shiny and all the HD requires switching on Advanced Lighting, wearing an included facelight, and muttering incantations to your graphics card. I hope you’ll appreciate the time I spent customizing Erin. I had to get used to her out-of-the-box face and body, both of which are long and lean, before I could slider her into the gal you see here, with her cute heart-shaped face and bootier body.
Things got even slicker when I picked up This is Wrong’s shine tats for the EVO head, which are free. (They’re supposed to be an update but you can grab them even if you never bought the original.) When I first tried to use a shine tattoo I couldn’t get the effect to work. Now that I am a technical wiz I had no problem grabbing all the lights This is Wrong has to offer and turning my av into a human disco. (There are moving lights, which make different parts of the tattoo appear lit at different moments.) You probably won’t be surprised to hear that I prefer my av to look more like a library. I’ll be back to flat Erin from pic one before creators can invent pulsing freckles and fluorescent moles.

LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)
[Glam Affair] Adele Layer [Lelutka] 004 A (at Collabor88)
Izzie’s – Blush / Contour Remover 02 (65%)
THIS IS WRONG, Melody shine tattoo LeLutka Evolution HUD
pic one: tram, H116 HUD A
pics two and three: DOUX – Melinda Hairstyle [M]
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1

Classically beautiful on Christmas

This is the story of an epic struggle to style right. It began on Black Friday, a day I like to shop for big-ticket items. I made my first stop LeLutka, where I looked at their lineup of discounted heads. I could tell at a glance I’d be saying No, no, no, no. Oh. There, at the end of the line, was Korina, completely unlike the others and exactly the opposite of what I’d always liked with my long-time head, Simone—a heart-shaped face, bowed lips, the bottom one fuller than the top, the pout perfect. Korina had a long head and wide thin lips. She looked a little sporty, very American. I could imagine her…smiling. I bought her without hesitation. I wanted the challenge of making those minuses into pluses. And so began my struggle to work with a classically beautiful, fit, privileged, if modest, model. Of course, the first thing I did was shorten her torso, widen her hips, enlarge her butt and slide the breasts to 75. No no no. That was going in for the kind of cute sexy cartoony look I enjoy with Simone. I throttled the sliders. I tried to compensate for the wholesome naturalness of the Glam Affair skin in Korina’s HUD by slapping on some red lips and my go-to liner by Zibska. The first day the HUD malfunctioned, and I set about cursing Glam Affair’s proprietary ways. The next day, when it worked, it showed me that Korina was a pure Pilgrim-bred WASP. She had to look sunkissed, not human-made. I realized that I was going to need a conservative dress for this potential Pete Buttigieg voter, and Belle Epoque’s retro freebie (no longer available) in an odd shade of polyester was perfect. I found a pair of sensible Hilly Halaan pumps in my inventory and slapped on some white stockings without gold-studded garters. They. weren’t. even. fishnets.
I knew I was going to need a long hairdo to keep Korina from hitting her mid-thirties. I’ve always admired Stealthic’s luxurious textures. But my regular av’s head is too bubble-big for their controlled tresses. I felt both miffed on behalf of Simone and elated when Korina’s skinny noggin fit into a half-dozen Stealthic hairdos, each one lovelier than the last. There was no fighting it. Korina was determined to be womanly, to live life without a hint of Simone’s coed pertness and precocious sex appeal. No hitting the Whimsy button for her. Korina isn’t going past Pleased this holiday season. (After I shot these photos, I sent Korina out for a model makeover. You can see the results in my last post and in my next one.)

.LeLutka.Head.Korina 3.4 wearing the in-HUD Glam Affair skin
Leronso, Eyes/Group gift/Catwa, Lelutka, Omega, Genus
Stealthic – Purity (S Breast) Variety pack
=Zenith=2019 Christmas HeadBand (gift/group is free)
Belle Epoque, { New Chances } Dress BEAH (not available)
Kibitz – Zaris bracelet – gold
all earrings are old gifts
euphoric~Mishi Bento Nails~Maitreya and Slink
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
This is Wrong, Boho tattoo white
.Tentacio, Xmas cookies (at Kustom9)