Leather and leash

built to last I’ve been aching to wear one of UC’s impressive creations, so I snapped up this classic leather bondage dress when I saw it at Cosmopolitan. Today’s post is actually a public service: the vendor image doesn’t display the range of ways one can wear this item, so I am doing my bit to raise awareness of the options. You can add fur sleeves to transition in an instant from fall to winter or from a cosy bedroom to a damp dungeon. You can also switch from lady to lout—drop the skirt and you’re left with a many-belted jacket. Finally, you can earn a moderate rating on Flickr by stripping out the panels that oh so cruelly imprison your avi’s beautiful breasts. (What comes next is NSFW.) Continue reading

Code red

light meltdown Continue reading

Gone, not a goner

cirino by ZibskaI was gone. Computer caught the flu; I traveled on business. It’s recovered; I’ve returned. I also discovered erotic hypnosis,* sooooo I may not be totally back to blogging. There’s time, however, to be mesmerized by the shimmeringly strict lines of Zibska’s Cirino necklace, which comes with a matching circlet. It’s colour and size change—Portia is wearing hers shrunken. There’s time also to stare deep into Portia’s gold-and-grape Elf Eyes, one of fifteen new particoloured pairs from MUDSKIN.

Zibska, Cirino Necklace—comes with Circlet not shown (NEW; colour and size change at The Secret Affair; ty Zib!)
[ MUDSKIN ]_Elf Eyes#9 (NEW at Lost and Found; ty Sopha!)
*eha~ Sang Black hair (not available: dates back to 2010!)
.LeLutka.Mesh Head-STELLA v1.1
Glam Affair, Mila 13 (Lelutka Head applier) (gacha)
Maitreya, Lara Mesh Body 3.4
[Foxes]Leggings – Maitreya – Leathers (past 50L Friday)
pose: ZZANG, from the Long pack
*If I remember correctly, I am supposed to have an orgasm next time I open a door. Of course, I am also supposed to not remember that. UPDATE; I can only speculate that the time it takes to open a door is too brief for a woman to have an orgasm. It takes a while for us to spiral up to one; or we have four in a few minutes. A bank-vault door that is too heavy to pull open in a trice might be more appropriate. If you can’t access your neighborhood vault—or don’t want to commit a felony—go to a drugstore and try opening one of the automatic doors by hand. Oof. Unf.

In the hanging garden

all mod cons bwHe called to cancel our date on Friday afternoon. His father is seriously ill. He wouldn’t see him till Sunday. He couldn’t think about anything else. I cried on public transportation for 75 minutes. If it had been a crowded rush-hour train all the bodies would have afforded me some privacy. (One very nice man did give me a napkin and encouraged me to open it to get the most out of it.) In texts, I tried to suggest alternatives to the elaborate rope scene my top and I had been planning. I was selfish, but… I don’t know him very well. It’s possible a little light bondage is the perfect thing to relieve his stress. Tops are said to lack control in their lives and enjoy controlling the bottom’s body; for rope tops this extends to the intense focus of the tying. (Bottoms are said to seek relief from obligations to act. [Obligations to act might be called “power” if most bottoms were men.] My career as a professor saddles me with more responsibility and authority than I want. And yet I’ve never been in a scene that freed me from making decisions. The possibility of nerve damage keeps me alert.) (There’s RL lingerie and, yes, some tasteful avatar nudity after the dreaded cut.) Continue reading

Ear play is not my kink

no fond farewellI spent two weeks trying to write—and avoiding writing—an account of a partial suspension rope scene that left me bummed, not blissed, out. I want to be truthful about the downsides of BDSM. It’s not always ecstatic, and it can go wrong in ways that aren’t as notable and traumatic as injury or consent violation. I got bogged down writing up the details of the rigging, comparing the depressing partial suspension to the uplifting partial my regular top and I did the previous month. Suffice to say, the dispiriting tie was not torture, just challenging, an unintended predicament. The predicament extended beyond the rigging in both space and time. We were at a pro dungeon party and other attendees were sitting on a couch directly across from us, watching us play as though we were television (premium channel, I hope). I think this made both of us tense. More importantly, I had spent more than a week feeling all colours of upset because my top would not commit to a date to scene. He needs to get it together. But I had fucked up by agreeing that we could “play it by ear,” even though I know that I am not capable of being laid back or spontaneous. Ear play, it’s not my kink. (You’ll get an eyeful under the cut, so don’t proceed if eye play is not, y’know…) Continue reading


peer pressured Today’s photos are just the result of fooling around with a few cool things. First, Stella, a LeLutka head, something which initially I refused to buy because I can only afford to buy skins when they are discounted and I found no deals to steal. As soon as I saw Glam Affair’s Liss gacha I happily set about choosing a mesh noggin, comparing all until I realized that the differences among them are misleading because the whole line communicates the same general aesthetic. (For some reason that aesthetic makes for some very flat faces.) Second, the 3.4 version of Maitreya’s Lara body, which I will use more now that the options are more comprehensive and I discovered a group of fanatical users who generate tips for making it work. (I thought I was the only one who had been thrown back to the SL of old, when one had to reapply, rebake, relog or relent.) Last but not least, an r2 A/D/E dress I somehow forgot to blog. Rei seems to have skipped Collabor88 for September, which is a shame because I have developed a simple very satisfying formula for shooting each month’s offering: r2 outfit + tattoo + chains + outer space.

r2 A/D/E reijin[XS] copper
.LeLutka.Mesh Head-STELLA v1.1
Glam Affair, Liss 11 India (gacha at Kustom9 and yard sales) If you have an extra Liss 1 Africa, I would love to buy or trade for it.
Maitreya, Mesh Body – Lara V3.4
Tattoo Mania, Joon (VIP group gift, NO fee to join)
~Tableau Vivant~ Healy – Tie & Dye I (old gacha or gift?)
. a i s l i n g . WristCuffs (came free from a bondage prop demo)
R.icielli – SKULL EARRING /GRAFF (olde)
pose 2: Grafica, from Stand Tall pack (thanks Alyx!)
shot at Era of Salvation landing point

Work work work

affective labour It takes all kinds to make kink work. The Pit is a new hangout for RPers and bondage aficionados. Pop upstairs for a well-curated assortment of sophisticated bondage props including Stockholm & Lima’s shibari rig and Dutchie/Rustica’s orientalist cage La Signora della Pazienza. Continue reading

Eyes enough

eyeing you I think this is my post celebrating the colours of spring. It’s time once again to think about cute bunnies and chicks, chocolate or otherwise. This week I dressed Portia up as a warrior and then decided that she could be any old urban girl momentarily surprised by a giant rat, and not the marshmallow kind. New items in Portia’s wardrobe include the Vykris Corset from Aikea Rieko for The Plastik and the colour-change Echo shorts from Zibska by Zib Scaggs. (A girl needs a battle breastplate and fatigues when she ventures out on garbage night.) One of my favorite new accessories is the array of arrowhead piercings from Alegria, which I picked up at Love and War II. There are spikes in back and a nose-ring too, and the set is available in copper as well as antique silver. It was 30L when I bought it, but that might have been a 30L Saturday price. Continue reading

Sithville shocked me

byss shock Futurewave ends on March 1st. So fly over there now if you fancy Rab Labs’ Tacticool Shades or the Data Pad from Bluprintz. I would have stayed in the Doomed Ship for this last post but I was creeped out by the sound of heavy breathing in the dark, deserted sick bay. I chose another sci-fi sim at random and the creep got real deep. Byss is home to the Sith Lords, and its architecture is fascist—so much so that I suddenly felt sickened by the horrors of the 1930s and 40s in Europe. I tried to tell myself it was just a game but I cut short my shoot instead of fiddling with Windlights.
communications Hedda wears Woman in Love from Mudskin. It’s available at Cosmetic Fair, which closes on the 28th of February. Released in the tones Pinky Pale—shown here—and Sunny, Woman in Love is soft but strong with black-wing eyeliner and glossy lips in warm coral and cool pink tones. Each pack contains the skin in multiple eyebrow (and no eyebrow) versions. There are also four discrete mole options and a cleavage tattoo.

Thank you to the Futurewave creators!

Both pics
[ MUDSKIN ]_Woman in Love1_E4_Pinky Pale with Petite Mole_Right and Petite Mole_Left1 (NEW at Cosmetic Fair; ty Sopha!)

Pic one
Rab Labs, Tacticool Shades (NEW at Futurewave; lenses are colour change)
Chariot, Drive Theory (NEW; multiple metal options; the wheel in the center spins—wheee! ty Sian!)
Modanna, [Montmartre Collection] Glamour Latex Dress Black XS
Little Bones, Rapunxel hair Ombres and Roots
pose: flowey

Pic 2
.LeLutka.Honor hair. Dim pack (NEW; LeLutka’s hair-colour options have changed, although blondes still have the most fun…)
BluPrintz – Data Pad (NEW at Futurewave: various parts are colour change and the display comes with options. It’s also resizeable.)
Graves, G462 Purple
[ SAKIDE ] Attitude Collars
{S0NG} :: Cupid~ Dark Green Eye (love these! at Cosmetic Fair)
pose: PDA (not avail.)