Crises at midlife and midnight

cracklingIs there a difference between my sudden embrace of kink and anyone else’s midlife crisis? I don’t believe so. I can’t be the only person to regret time lost or wasted, to claw my way out of a moribund state, of years-long depression and more than a decade fearing sex. Over the past year I have become capable not only of “extreme” and “perverse” acts and emotions but of acts and emotions PERIOD. I have rediscovered sociability, friendship and intimate relationships. I leave my house at night to spend time with people. (Weeks of tracking my insomnia show me that I sleep best when I come home from an outing and go straight to bed.) I have the peace of mind and confidence to reconnect with professional peers and my mother. I even started shopping again. Now that I am buying lingerie, sex toys and rope for my dungeon nights, a pair of completely unnecessary brightly striped loafers might seem like a comparatively conservative and practical addition to my wardrobe. (Reader, I purchased them.) Continue reading

Think galactically

telepathyZib Scaggs is the kind of creator who likes it when her bloggers do odd things with her works. At least I think she is. Today I’ve combined the outsized interlocked rings of the new Titan hairdo with the orbit of another new style, Enceladus. As usual Zib’s hairstyles, like the Alerio set of men’s necklace and cuffs, are colour and size change. A constellation of new ‘dos await you at Hair Fair, where Zib is one of the most charitable creators with a 75% donation to Wigs for Kids.

Credits
Zibska ~ Alerio Necklace and Cuffs for men (NEW—colour and size change; at The Secret Affair; ty Zib!)
Zibska ~ Titan with Hairbase ~ 05* in tattoo and TMP (NEW—colour change and resize at Hair Fair; ty Zib!)
Zibska ~ Enceladus—Orbit only [modded] (NEW—colour change and resize at Hair Fair; ty Zib!)
Maitreya, Mesh Body – Lara V2.1
no. 7 Geometry Lashes
Glam Affair – Lilith – Africa 02 D
{S0NG} :: Chibi~ Eye Abyss
pose by Riri Nini not available

(Sw)itch it up

notkidding Now in my fifth week of insomnia, I am attempting to trick myself into exhaustion by blogging. Unable to get to sleep some nights until 4AM, but also unable to do anything else, I am being reprogrammed into the world’s least productive “night person.” I am also being transformed into an enraged matron because some nights the hemorrhoids get in on the vampirification protocol, itching like a million mosquito bites at a hen party. (Prefer undersharing and a nip slip? Venture below the cut.) Continue reading

Waiting so long (I’ve been)

beenalongtime Quitterie is the latest lacy lingerie from Yukachoco Magic for Chocolate Atelier. It’s available at On9 in black, red, white and green, worn here. There are system layers and appliers for bodies by Maitreya, shown here, Slink, TMP and Wowmeh. I was curious about the origin of the name and discovered that Quitterie is both a rabbit-headed manga character and an obscure virgin martyr. The French female name Quitterie means “quiet.” That’s perfect for poor muzzled Portia, who awaits the return of her master, not because she longs to be freed but because she is impatient to be punished and petted. Continue reading

Prettiest star

commander Portia was minding her own business. Actually, she was imagining that the Doomed Ship would be far less doomed if she were running the bar. She looked fetching in Zib Scaggs’ new Cynthia dress for Zibska. Suitable for deep space and for an elegant cocktail party, it’s fashioned out of down-filled quilted pleather and festooned with feathers on each shoulder. In back it’s finished with a subtle bustle of black-velvet roses. These are arrayed above what can only be described as an all-access passageway. Find your way into it below the cut. But only if you are not observed by other humans. Continue reading

Unpartnered

bellyinbedshadowed Hicks from the sticks who switch. That’s how I would describe the men I sat with at a small shibari party on Friday night. The men who were tying up their girlfriends, and the guy who was getting stoned and taking pics with his phone, are city dwellers. As are the girlfriends. And me. Don’t get me wrong. The men from towns where there is no cell phone service were perfectly nice people, and the conversation was not awkward. What was awkward was having no prospect of getting tied. Okay, it was also a little awkward being way too close to people who were getting their hogtie on. Saturday night I went to a class about puppy play in a dungeon I wanted to check out. On FetLife dozens of people said they were going to go. Three couples showed up. And me. Don’t get me wrong. I asked playful questions so I could sniff out the possibilities. Quickly I realized that I identify with both dogs and cats, especially when they misbehave. The dog side of me would eat half an unguarded muffin and then have no clue why master was chastising me. I’d probably be happy to receive such vigorous attention. Not to mention stimulated by a swat on the nose with a rolled newspaper. The cat side of me would just play with the muffin as if it were a mouse and then show mistress contempt when she tried to remonstrate with me. Continue reading

Drafty

perv My favorite hairstyles, tones and textures come from Little Bones creator Nova Faerye. She can’t stop gifting her VIP group, which costs 100L to join. Right now there are ten gifts near the front desk, half of which feature the awesome new Ink Dipped palette. Continue reading

The cyborg wore panties

lara's undies I made a mistake, spending a bundle on some fancy *oUvUo* panties made only for The Mesh Project body, which Portia has never worn. I messed about with the free basic TMP body and realized I’d have to buy a skin to match the body unless I wanted Portia headless as well as topless. I could have gotten away with showing the undies on the default body, GIMPing the gaps that just would not slider away. But I’m a perfectionist, so I decided that this was the perfect excuse to hop on the mesh bodywagon. Why did I buy Maitreya’s Lara? Price. And the Glam Affair association. (My inventory is like a Glam Affair glam affair. But that’s partly because Birdy, my fave, stopped making skins. Please come back little Birdy.) Continue reading

See the light

ridic circus girl

What motivated me to get bright and light I do not know. Perhaps it’s my way of pulling out of some seasonal affective disorder that saw me going to bed at 7 or 8 pm and sleeping twelve hours. I am now putting on lots of lights in my home, even though I hate to waste energy. And I have rediscovered some of the evening pleasures I lost hold of in the past few weeks. I still prefer to watch TV on demand in the morning. But I found my way back to blogging. Today I want you to feast your eyes on Anka, the ringling and jingling colour-change necklace new from Zib Scaggs of Zibska. Also note the new hair from Moon, which is 50% off while the in-store sale lasts.

bright sunshiney day No. 7 creator Shortcake Sugarplum wears Glam Affair skins, so I thought I would do an homage to showcase her new metal-and-gem colour-change lashes. The leaf-shaped Changing Season lashes tumble gracefully from eye to shoulder. Don’t forget to check out alternate shots on the Pleisure Flickr.

Look 1
Zibska, Anka ~ Necklace (NEW at The Secret Affair only till Nov 30; ty Zib!)
MOON // Hair // – Plateau NEW
[ MUDSKIN ]_Fina4_E2_Sunny (old TC4 item, not yet available in store; ty Sopha!)
.ARISE. Drift Tattoo HARD (tintable)
Maitreya Flare Jeans (for heels) * S #6
pose: Ridic gacha at Cirque de Seraphim [it’s not easy to get an av body to cooperate with a hoop: these poses are awesome]

Look 2
no. 7 Changing Season Couture Lashes (NEW at L’Accessoires till Dec 14; ty Short one!)
-Glam Affair – Kallisto – Cocktail Girl – Asia A (former 50L Friday?)
*Milk* Hair~ Sushi *PFH* Lolas (old gift)
!dM, Ianna – SilkDress **ROSE** (gacha at Secret Affair)
{S0NG} :: Chibi~ Spacey Eye