Make Pride

I’m marking Pride month with every celebratory heart in my inventory. Pride has expanded beyond the gay male community to represent multiple gender and sexual communities. This year I learned that the kink community is not friendly to asexuals. It’s great to see virtual rope classes that are dedicated to “LGBTQ” students. But where does that leave the I and the A students? The online asexual munch listed on FetLife consistently drew only two or three RSVPs. A recent Dating Kinky event on asexuality was canceled and has not been rescheduled. I like to joke that an asexual event will only work if it’s geared towards their allies. If the allies show up a few of us ace-types can sneak in. Read “Making Space for Ace (Asexuals) at Your Sex and Kink Parties.”

See you on the beach with this bag, a gift from Belle Epoque at Shop & Hop, where merchants are celebrating SL18B as well as Pride. My av’s hair is Mina’s gift at Shop & Hop. Limos below.


Belle Epoque, Candice Bag Pride Edition (gift at Shop & Hop)

MINA Hair – Shop & Hop 2021 hair (gift at Shop & Hop)

-[ vagrant ]- Monica Shirt – Maitreya – Rainbow Heart

Tee*fy Myla Shorts – CBlue – Maitreya

[RHUDE] Easy Earring 

Mad’ – Pride Rainbow Tattoo [Gay] (VIP gift at the shop)

namo. aine eyeshadow – periwinkle (evo)

Jack Spoon .Prue lashes (duo tone) – Lel Evo

.lovelysweet. cheekie accents pink hearts

Jack Spoon . summer BEAUTY MARKS2

Blood +Fallen Gods Inc., Touch of a lover tattoo (olde)

[Glam Affair] Anika Layer [Lelutka] 003 E

LeLUTKA.Head.Lilly.2.5 (static ears)

Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.3

Stun Poses, Diana

I didn’t know…

…my av could look this cute. I’ve long admired this kind of Asian face with a long nose. I imagined that only the most skilled manipulator of at least five factors could get this look. Turns out all I needed was the Usagi skin in icecream from Psycho Pills with the shape included. Remember those crazy days when we couldn’t look like the picture on the box?!
This is the time of year when all the creators get their bikinis out on the shelves. I figured I’d also pretend that we are not yet faced with the ugly kale and chrysanthemums of fall.

Psycho Pills x A.Doutzen – Usagi Skin Eyelid 2 (icecream) comes with Psycho Pills – Usagi Shape and brows
Izzie’s – Eyebrow Concealer 05 65%
[Heaux] Cute Bits – Wet Gloss, Inner Eye Highlight, Blush
LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)
tram, J0713 hair(S)(Style1) HUD C I think
Tee*fy Myla Shorts – Lime – Maitreya
Tee*fy Romy Lacey Top- Jellybean – Maitreya
.::Supernatural::. Maddie Necklace Gold
[RHUDE] Easy Earring lt Gold
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.1
Stun Poses, Diana pack

Le creep c’est chic

truly awful I don’t know why this look took a dark turn. Oh, wait, I do: the TAG Gacha circus makeup from The Skinnery turned Portia into some kind of glam lizard. In a good way, natch. Continue reading


rep Here Hedda wears the new Skuro necklace from Riri Nini for h.m.a.e.m. It’s also available in all-black gems and in a combo of wine and emerald stones. Below, Hedda wears The Gathering, one of Zib Scaggs’ new bird-themed headdresses for Zibska. Zib likes to add orbits to her outfits, so birds make sense as a signature motif. (Satellites may be next.) Riri likes luxury. But there have to be dashes, or dots, of eccentricity. Her ladies do more than lunch.

thegathering Hedda’s minimalist look makes me happy. Bold beauty marks from Visage by Volupturaptor Perl decorate Birdy’s May skin, a lovely Asian face I picked up at Skin Fair.


Look 1
h.m.a.e.m. – Skuro – necklace 001c [modded] (NEW at Salimar location only; ty Riri)
.Birdy. May Skin ~Peaches~ (Skin Fair exclusive)
Visage, Beauty Marks – set 07 – light (on Marketplace)
~Tableau Vivant~ Valentin Hair (regular) – Equinox pack (Fameshed)
(fd) Blazer – Black Dots XXS
{SMS} Carrot Pants Dot Black M
MaxiGossamer – Bangles – Ramona 77 set
Slink, Avatar Enhancement Hands – Casual
o0o studio, allegory 6

Look 2
Zibska, The Gathering (NEW; ty Zib!)
.Birdy. May Skin ~Peaches~ (Skin Fair exclusive)
cStar Limited – Spectrum Lines Eyeliner
Visage, Beauty Marks – set 07 – light (on Marketplace)
little bones. Ministry blacks pack (at Chapter 4)
Tee*fy, Dakota Corset Gown Black XS

The future isn’t forever

fall This is not space travel. This is what happens when your friend forgets to put you on her access list. (And you brought your pudding gun and everything.) There’s a lot to want in this pic and very little time to get it because Futurewave ends at midnight SLT today, February 23rd. The helmet from BFI has a ton of visor options—half of them completely opaque and far more butch than the lady-coloured one Portia wears. The Tinker Tailor boots from Miamai are available in sober shades of black, green and grey, among others. These are truly high-fashion battle boots because the slim ankle makes them perfect for skirts. Last but not least, Pleisure mainstay Zib Scaggs for Zibska gives us pudding without the gun in her Dagmar dress and collar. There is an all-silver version of the dress as well as one in burnt-acid green and cobalt blue. DRD’s Cyber Cables bring the sparks.

rook This is not a lab for cellular regeneration. This is where bloggers go to regret their Windlight choices. Portia wears the super-cute pants and blouse from DRBC’s Nomi jumpsuit in Fire and Noir, respectively. Underneath, she’s snug as a bug in the red version of the Halcyon spacesuit from Gallactic. A Gallactic collar and Rigellia Earpiece from CPD round out the look.

Credits to creators
A world of thanks to the Futurewave creators. Unless otherwise noted, everything here is from Futurewave.
Look 1
Zibska, Dagmar ~ Atchung dress and collar
=BFI// Viper Helmet – Female Fit V1.2
DRD, Cyber Cables with electricity
Miamai,_Tinker Taylor boots -Ceremony smb – female S
=BFI// Armored Undersuit – DARK (also a light version)
Tee*fy, Pudding Gun (old Arcade gacha)
-Glam Affair – Elvi – America – 03 (not at Futurewave)
pose: Rook, Aim and Fire pack

Look 2
::drbc:: nomi pants s – fire
::drbc:: nomi top s – noir
GALLACTIC . Halcyon . Red bodysuit (Lolas and Slink and Phat Azz appliers included in pack)
Lolas ::: Tango ::: Mesh Breasts (not at Futurewave)
GALLACTIC . Eclipse collar . Grey
:*:CPD:*: Rigellia Starfield Earpiece
booN, cornrows hairbase purple (not at Futurewave)
booN, KGI848 hair purple (not at Futurewave)
Miamai_Tinker Taylor boots -Ceremony smb – female S
-Glam Affair – Mokatana – America – Star (not at Futurewave)
prop: Rook, Recovery Unit

If this be cute


I was gonna take the night off and watch Hannibal, but TuttiFrutti’s adorable Valentina dress saved me from myself.

*TuttiFrutti* Valentina Mesh MiniDress – Rose [M] (NEW and exclusive for the Summer Fashion Festival until the 16th of June; ty Bela Tolsen!)
[yulicie] Anya – Light Blond
.::Mother Goose’s::.Natalie-1L$ skin
C’est la Vie, Teapot Bag Navy (gacha at Sounds Gravis Beach Gala #2 event)
Shakeup! Fabric-Flower Ring [Sweet] (Arcade gacha)
Tee*fy Colour Blocking Minimalism Bangle Ocean Shade R and Peach L
Pig – Knee Sock Mit Suspenders – White Sock
pose by PDA
location Virtual Decay
GIMPage minimal

Break them in

jeanssm Bela Tolsen always does jeans for her TuttiFrutti line, and her spring collection offers some sophisticated yet form-fitting takes on the old classic. In addition to a faded pair splotched with clouds and a light pair, she’s created the dark and flowered pairs Portia models today.
puppettutti Since I am still planning to succumb to the Server Side Baking apocalypse, I’ve been feeling pressure to dress Portia in everything she’s not yet worn. That means finding some silly stuff in the closet. Do these puppets make me look fat?

Credits to creators
pic one: *TuttiFrutti* Denim Mesh Jeans – Dark [XS] (NEW; ty Bela!)
pic two: *TuttiFrutti* Denim Mesh Jeans – Blossom – [XS] (NEW; ty Bela!)
Tee*fy, Ana Slouchy Satin Tank Grey Sheer S (old Collabor88)
.:* LOULOU&CO *:. – Horns :: LIBERTAD :: V.2 (special event, prolly Zodiac)
Glam Affair – Margot – India Clean – Red (at Collabor88)
Aeva // Eyelashes // Long Lashes
[JB] Juicy Box – Beautiful Mess Tattoo
>TRUTH< Elisha w/Roots – copper
*REDGRAVE* Audrey2 – PlateauHeels
MONS / Shocking eyes – brown
puppets are an old CuteBytes hunt gift
prop is Glitterati Shopaholic Closet
GIMPed for your pleisure

Casual glamour

ozibskapalazzo I think of them as “my ladies”—the talented women who send me their creations so that I may share them with you. My ladies have been busy, so Portia is drowning in spring/summer wear, and I have blog posts planned through the end of next week. Yesterday, I showed you h.m.a.e.m’s new mod-inspired slim-fitting slacks. Today, Zib Scaggs of Zibska also recalls the 60s with her striped linen Chloe palazzo pants. In real life, I am short and dumpy but I can wear palazzo pants, so I think of them as the ninth wonder of the world. Zibska’s palazzos are big but sexy because they sit below the waist and curve elegantly around an av’s belly. The Chloe pants come with a coordinating halter top, but I didn’t want Portia to look too bare at this time of year, so she’s wearing a cutout crop top from Ozi. In addition to the aqua version shown here, the Chloe outfit is available in lime, white and gray renditions. One last note for today: Portia is wearing Margot, one of Glam Affair’s affordable skins for May’s Collabor88. I was chuffed to discover that the 288L pack contains the red-lipped glamorous look advertised on the vendor and a “clean” version of the skin, which offers a dewy daytime makeup with a pale lip.

Credits to creators
Zibska, Chloe Trousers ~ Aqua [2] (comes with an aqua-blue halter top) (NEW; ty Zib Scaggs!)
{.:Ozi:.} ORGAMI CROP top V2 TANGO – xxs
Glam Affair – Margot – India 03 – Dark brown (at Collabor88)
[7891.] Total – Gold earrings
-REDGRAVE – Shoes Helena – 12colors (NEW)
Tee*fy, Colour Blocking Minimalism Bangle Critus (yesterday’s 50 L Friday)
Adore & Abhor, Lambie (special event item, but there are other versions)
Alouette, Bibliotheque Chair (old Arcade gacha)
GIMPed but not pimped

Mix those messages

do me The five stages of male denial: I never promised you a rose garden. What made you think I promised you a rose garden? Who promises rose gardens nowadays? Why do you think you deserve a rose garden? I suspect you’re unstable.
I met a fellow scholar in the cafe where I write four hours a day. I’d seen him there every day for a year. Comfortably trapped in a depression-powered, safety-glass bubble, I had spent that year refusing to interact sociably with anyone on the premises. Until the new manager insisted that baristas take customers’ names. Suddenly we were family. (I can walk in and order the usual. I always thought “the usual” would be some exotic cocktail. Shame about my alcohol allergy. And my aversion to night life. Night period.) Around Thanksgiving, I finally responded to my fellow cafe denizen’s friendly passing remarks. I even let him watch my computer while I went to the ladies room. (If you knew me you’d say “Woah.”) His dissertation sounded feminist. He wasn’t afraid of me. I decided to try to get past the problem of his looks: typically handsome and thick-necked muscular. (I prefer tubercular-looking British boy/men. Bad teeth optional. This is the consequence of growing up goth. Damn you Peter Murphy.) After two months of chatting and indirect conversations about sex—the scholar’s specialty—he mentioned his wife. He never wears a ring. He never said anything about spending the holidays with her. He spoke in the present tense about the difficulty of meeting women he could relate to. I was hurt and angry about this lie by omission. But I decided not to do what I’d done in the past. No intimacy-building confession of pain. No consciousness-raising confrontation about the disrespect he’d shown me and, much worse, his wife. No obligation-creating request that we work together to establish new boundaries. And I resolved that if he asked about my sudden distance I would borrow a phrase from the last coward who dumped me. I’d tell my cafe friend that his failure to acknowledge his wife “raised a red flag.” That’s a phrase that is so perfectly clinical and cliched that it means nothing except “The conversation is as over as the relationship.” This latest bad experience leaves me feeling proud of what I’ve learned over the years: I no longer give anyone the opportunity to do the denial dance. On the other hand, it sucks that, once again, my armour isn’t coming off. Not to mention my pants. (Damn you pants!)

Credits to creators
cuffs: Zibska, Ute Deux (part of a full set) (NEW; ty Zib Scaggs!)
skin: Al Vulo, Alyss skin and Lolas Tango applier (group gift)
lip tat: old Heartsick gift
bags: Handverk, Valentine’s clutch gacha (NEW) [g’damn—I wanted the Spank Me clutch!]
hair: Dura, #40 (resizable by menu) (NEW)
bouquet: Vita’s Boudoir (Tainted Love Hunt item, 1L)
arrow harness: Contraption (Tainted Love Hunt item, 1L)
crown: Tee*fy (past Collabor88)
boobs: Lola’s Tango
stockings: League, side-gartered stockings
pose: LAP and bouquet pose
GIMPed for your pleisure. And dedicated to Shortcake Sugarplum.