The one where I talk about everything

June is Pride month and all the parades are canceled, but Second Life is dripping with celebratory gifts. I’m glad Portia is wearing the rainbow flag on Seniha’s shirt because the asexual flag is depressing (lavender, grey, black and white). I am making strides towards claiming my asexuality: I messaged a presenter who was giving a talk about “sexual empowerment” for femme-identifying tops to let her know that topping doesn’t have to be about sex. I haven’t heard back from her. I hope she will change her way of thinking, not just add a sentence saying “You do you” to asexual people.
We are all grappling with the potential revolution in race relations in the USA, hence Portia’s Vobe “fuck racism” necklace. These are some of the things I want to tell white people about what I’ve learned thus far. Racism is systemic: it’s the policies and cultures we need to change, not the minds of individuals. Racism is a white problem; we need to solve it. Freaked-out, fragile white people need to consider how much less threatened we are than African Americans who live in fear. We need to pull ourselves together. It’s not up to African Americans to educate white people about racism. We need to do the research. I can recommend Ibram X. Kendi’s book How to Be an Antiracist. And this list of anti-racist resources.
The last thing I want to convey is a safety message for bondage enthusiasts. You should never wear cuffs as loose as Portia’s. The more a cuff can move the more likely it is to end up putting pressure on the nerves on the inside area of the wrist just above where it meets the hand. Make sure your cuff sits above this area and won’t move. Or if you’re using rope, do a tear-shaped cuff rather than a circle. When your arms are attached to an upline hold onto the upline to reduce pressure on your wrists.

Credits
Seniha. Pride Top // Maitreya (gift)
VOBE – FuckRacism Necklace (gift)
S&P, O cuff
[RHUDE] Easy Earring lt Gold
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.1
tram, I0528 hair
LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)
Mudskin, Anna shade 102

On the prowl

You can add a photo of yourself to the Missing panel on Iso Darling’s milk carton. Portia drinks 1% at home, skim in her coffee when she’s in town, 2% when she travels. Portia pretends she doesn’t know how to say “skim” in Italian and accepts the 2% graciously. Of course right now nobody can travel. And everyone feels flummoxed trying to drink milk while masked.
You may have one more day to scoop up R2 A/D/E’s Kamari outfit at Collabor88. (This was a pricey one. 388L to get the whole outfit.) Sadly, La Malvada Mujer’s tattoo is no longer available. Perhaps you bought it in a spree at Enchantment and haven’t worn it yet.

Credits
r2 K/E/N, kamari[Black]Maitreya (at Collabor88 for one more day)
La Malvada Mujer, Dream On Tattoo (was at Enchantment)
tram, I0528 hair HUD C
NATIVE URBAN – 2020 Safety Mask Black (group gift)
Eudora 3D, Eos Bracelets (gift at Fameshed)
[RHUDE] Easy Earring lt Gold
LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears) EVO Line
[Glam Affair] Adele Layer [Lelutka] 004 A with the shape
Zibska, Sisel Eyemakeup 03
.Birdy. Red (Scar) Porcelaine (n/a)
.lovelysweet. cheekie accents black hearts (gift)
Izzie’s – Blush / Contour Remover 02 (65%)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.1
Iso Darling – Spooky Milk Carton (Stay at Home Club gift)
STUN – Pose Pack Collection Bento ‘Juliana’ #128,
shot at Little World

Beauty in suffering

If you feel like this and would prefer not to, you’re a lousy masochist. For instant relief check out Chill’s free meditation sessions. Chill is hosting complimentary 10-15 min Zoom sessions every Mon, Wed + Fri at 12:30pm CDT. It’s also on IG Live every Tue, Thur, and Sun at 9am CDT, but the link for that is busted. If you enjoy seeing a lovely bottom’s distress there’s more under the cut. In addition to the nudity, you will doubtless enjoy another relaxation tip from your lovely blogger. Continue reading

Sometimes we pose

In the last few days I’ve slept 16 hours a day. It started when the governor of Illinois announced we’d be staying home until May 30. I handled the first month very well, spurred by the need to teach my students through new platforms. But that time of year is here. That time of year when I have to switch to writing and hoping that someone someday will publish my stuff. The shift always brings agony, but usually, I don’t try to sleep it away.
I’m lucky. I’m employed and I’m healthy. But I am also completely alone in my home, without any human company. No pets unless you count a lifesize ceramic cat from the 1970s. I feel as though I will never again be touched intimately. How could I? The kink scene will never survive this. How do we go back to fifty-people munches, to fifty-patron dungeons, to fifty-student rope classes? (Well, my favorite class never attracted any more than four couples, so that should work. It will just have to be more expensive on the understanding that there’s no anticipation that the right-priced class will gain more and more students. So it’ll be forty dollars a person instead of twenty. And that eliminates anyone who is not well employed, including the person who partnered with me before the virus hit.)
How do we decide whether someone is hot enough to risk getting covid-19 from? The small gains the local rope community made of expanding play beyond romantic partnerships are now lost. In the future people will be even more likely to stick with a romantic partner rather than enjoy all kinds of rope with all kinds of community members.

Credits
Zibska, Bianca Necklace Full (on sale)
Tentacio, Fan and orchid headband (was a 50L Friday item)
tram, I0825 hair1 HUD 1
*PKC* Queen Bee Bento Lip Piercing – Lelutka Cate
03~~ Ysoral ~~.:Luxe Cleavage Piercing Laureen:.(Maitreya)
Kibitz – Starry bracelet – copper – right
CURELESS[+] Hekate Dress / MAITREYA / HOLO (group gift)
LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)
Nebula – Andromeda – LeLutka Evo – T5 – No Brow – Stay at Home Club Gift (comes with body applier)
LeLUTKA.Brows.Erin.004
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.1 (free update)
Posesion, Malena pack (Stay at Home Club Gift)

Safe bunny

Happy Easter, safe bunnies. Eat lots of eggs but stay six feet away from the rabbit who brought them. (There are nipples under the cut. Beware.) Continue reading

LeLutka evolution (or, ooh shiny!)

I bought Erin, from LeLutka’s Evolution line, because I wanted to get in on the conversation the group was having. I played with the demo for a while, not convinced I needed a new head. (I had just made friends with Korina at Xmas time.) I bought the head because sharing the technical challenge and styling adventure made me feel less lonely. I was thrilled to kit Erin out in Glam Affair’s Adele, which is the first GA skin I have bought since the tones changed. I have watched in horror as skin after skin appeared with white highlights in more and more bizarre shapes. Adele feels like a return to the good old days when we tolerated flatness because we knew we were playing with images, not trying to look real. Erin can be used with skin appliers but she is designed to be a BOM head, which means there’s a learning curve. It starts with balking at the fact that you’re going to leave all your appliers behind. The good news is that you can wear old tattoo layers if you’re working with BOM.
It’s not like I didn’t know what all those white splotches were meant to be on GA skins. Erin is great because distracting highlights can be added via the HUD rather than drawn into the skin. Getting all the shiny and all the HD requires switching on Advanced Lighting, wearing an included facelight, and muttering incantations to your graphics card. I hope you’ll appreciate the time I spent customizing Erin. I had to get used to her out-of-the-box face and body, both of which are long and lean, before I could slider her into the gal you see here, with her cute heart-shaped face and bootier body.
Things got even slicker when I picked up This is Wrong’s shine tats for the EVO head, which are free. (They’re supposed to be an update but you can grab them even if you never bought the original.) When I first tried to use a shine tattoo I couldn’t get the effect to work. Now that I am a technical wiz I had no problem grabbing all the lights This is Wrong has to offer and turning my av into a human disco. (There are moving lights, which make different parts of the tattoo appear lit at different moments.) You probably won’t be surprised to hear that I prefer my av to look more like a library. I’ll be back to flat Erin from pic one before creators can invent pulsing freckles and fluorescent moles.

Credits
LeLUTKA.Head.Erin.1.0(static ears)
[Glam Affair] Adele Layer [Lelutka] 004 A (at Collabor88)
Izzie’s – Blush / Contour Remover 02 (65%)
*YS&YS* – SKYLAR HD LIPSTICK ADD-ON Lelutka Evolution
THIS IS WRONG, Melody shine tattoo LeLutka Evolution HUD
pic one: tram, H116 HUD A
pics two and three: DOUX – Melinda Hairstyle [M]
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1

We’re gonna give it some of our all

Whoever finds this boring can come back for the rat tat.

Credits
.HERA – 2020 Mesh Prop. (WEAR) (cheap on Marketplace)
[RNK]Japan NewYearNail_Okinawa gift (gift at Okinawa fair)
.::Supernatural::. Milena Necklace Gold [Linked]
[Cynful] Cropped Bomberjacket – Maitreya Lara
tram, I0706 hair HUD C
.LeLutka.Head.Korina 3.4
[ MUDSKIN ] ETC Lens, Vol 2 #9
[ MUDSKIN ] Anna tone 102
[ MUDSKIN ] Pumped lipstick
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
location: U.F.O (under construction)

Double time and a half peep show

I swear I was going to discuss what sex workers do for double time and a half on Xmas.
But I was just looking for an excuse to make my avi look silly and saucey at once.

Credits (as complete as I could get)
::Axix:: Xmas Maiden Dress [Red] // MAITREYA
Doe: Ornament – Pastels (at Epiphany)
erratic / satin scarf / xmas red (rigged) (gift at Shop and Hop)
r2 A/D/E hiten Pasties Maitreya
S&P, Story of O cuffs
Sweet Thing. Clockwork Doll Panties – White (Maitreya) (past gacha)
C’est La Vie, Socks
NX-Nardcotix Lola Heels Glitter Red (MAITREYA) (old gift)
Pichi, tattoo on Marketplace
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
.LeLutka.Head.Korina 3.4
[ MUDSKIN ]_Anna skin 102 shade
blusher is a gift at Okinawa festival but I don’t recall creator
[SB] *Lelutka* Eyebrows Standard (free gift; check Teleport Hub for listing)

Classically beautiful on Christmas

This is the story of an epic struggle to style right. It began on Black Friday, a day I like to shop for big-ticket items. I made my first stop LeLutka, where I looked at their lineup of discounted heads. I could tell at a glance I’d be saying No, no, no, no. Oh. There, at the end of the line, was Korina, completely unlike the others and exactly the opposite of what I’d always liked with my long-time head, Simone—a heart-shaped face, bowed lips, the bottom one fuller than the top, the pout perfect. Korina had a long head and wide thin lips. She looked a little sporty, very American. I could imagine her…smiling. I bought her without hesitation. I wanted the challenge of making those minuses into pluses. And so began my struggle to work with a classically beautiful, fit, privileged, if modest, model. Of course, the first thing I did was shorten her torso, widen her hips, enlarge her butt and slide the breasts to 75. No no no. That was going in for the kind of cute sexy cartoony look I enjoy with Simone. I throttled the sliders. I tried to compensate for the wholesome naturalness of the Glam Affair skin in Korina’s HUD by slapping on some red lips and my go-to liner by Zibska. The first day the HUD malfunctioned, and I set about cursing Glam Affair’s proprietary ways. The next day, when it worked, it showed me that Korina was a pure Pilgrim-bred WASP. She had to look sunkissed, not human-made. I realized that I was going to need a conservative dress for this potential Pete Buttigieg voter, and Belle Epoque’s retro freebie (no longer available) in an odd shade of polyester was perfect. I found a pair of sensible Hilly Halaan pumps in my inventory and slapped on some white stockings without gold-studded garters. They. weren’t. even. fishnets.
I knew I was going to need a long hairdo to keep Korina from hitting her mid-thirties. I’ve always admired Stealthic’s luxurious textures. But my regular av’s head is too bubble-big for their controlled tresses. I felt both miffed on behalf of Simone and elated when Korina’s skinny noggin fit into a half-dozen Stealthic hairdos, each one lovelier than the last. There was no fighting it. Korina was determined to be womanly, to live life without a hint of Simone’s coed pertness and precocious sex appeal. No hitting the Whimsy button for her. Korina isn’t going past Pleased this holiday season. (After I shot these photos, I sent Korina out for a model makeover. You can see the results in my last post and in my next one.)

Credits
.LeLutka.Head.Korina 3.4 wearing the in-HUD Glam Affair skin
Leronso, Eyes/Group gift/Catwa, Lelutka, Omega, Genus
Stealthic – Purity (S Breast) Variety pack
=Zenith=2019 Christmas HeadBand (gift/group is free)
Belle Epoque, { New Chances } Dress BEAH (not available)
Kibitz – Zaris bracelet – gold
all earrings are old gifts
euphoric~Mishi Bento Nails~Maitreya and Slink
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V4.1
This is Wrong, Boho tattoo white
.Tentacio, Xmas cookies (at Kustom9)